Jealousy how does one cure or fix it totally. I'm sick to death of this untrusting dickhead thing. I'm currently getting psycodynamic therapy to resolve my anger and violence issues. Of course, jealousy goes hand in hand with it. So far we've (me and my therapist) have uncovered it stems from my childhood. I guess as the allusion attributed to the Jesuits implies, "Give me a boy to the age of seven and I'll show you the man" . Well I had a prety rough childhood. Just about everything that could go wrong for a kid did. Dad a violent criminal and where I grew up it was definitely "Sins of the father". My mother... well where does one start? She was very uncaring, dumped me at every opportunity (often with strangers) when a new man came along. To all intents and purposes, if I hadn't learned to dislike her at a young age, she would have made me gay.
The wife and I were having a strange conversation last night. She was chatting about her bi-side and was thinking about going to gay girl bars to flirt and chatup. I was encouraging her to do so and said I had no issues with her fucking another woman. She railed at me say how could I say that given I get moody if she even looks at another fella. I pointed out that in my little mind is doesn't count, there are far too many differences between men and women to be jealous and if was a man then that means competition and jealousy. We talked more about it, and I realised that the reason I've never been able to maintain a relationship with a woman for longer than a few months, stemmed from my anger at my mother constantly dumping me a new fuck when ever she wanted.
Parents eh! they are fucking bastards, my poor kids, what a life they've got in front of them, a fucked up crap dad, who really does not want to give them a fucked up life. How the fuck do I do it. I wish I could wind the clock forwards find out all my mistakes and make sure I don't do them.
Anyway, so next session that'll be some interesting shit to explore with my therapist. But in the mean time if anyone has any advice on how to cure relationship jealousy - I'd be dead greatful
The wife and I were having a strange conversation last night. She was chatting about her bi-side and was thinking about going to gay girl bars to flirt and chatup. I was encouraging her to do so and said I had no issues with her fucking another woman. She railed at me say how could I say that given I get moody if she even looks at another fella. I pointed out that in my little mind is doesn't count, there are far too many differences between men and women to be jealous and if was a man then that means competition and jealousy. We talked more about it, and I realised that the reason I've never been able to maintain a relationship with a woman for longer than a few months, stemmed from my anger at my mother constantly dumping me a new fuck when ever she wanted.
Parents eh! they are fucking bastards, my poor kids, what a life they've got in front of them, a fucked up crap dad, who really does not want to give them a fucked up life. How the fuck do I do it. I wish I could wind the clock forwards find out all my mistakes and make sure I don't do them.
Anyway, so next session that'll be some interesting shit to explore with my therapist. But in the mean time if anyone has any advice on how to cure relationship jealousy - I'd be dead greatful