...i've got to rant
Although I haven't talked to her in months, my mother called this weekend and her first question, "When are you going to find someone and get married?" It's always been so difficult to explain to her that marriage is just not my top priority. I'm sure marriage is great for many even beyond the fulfillment ofthe biological urge of pair bonding. Otherwise, no one would be doing it.
For me, I'm still finishing up my degree. My focus is more on my professional career path right now than marriage and raising children. I don't want to join the ranks of the married couples until I've ensured that I always have something to fall back on. I want to work hard and be the best at my future job. That seems endlessly more fulfilling than the prospect of driving the kids around in my noxious SUV, spending my weekends with my chubby hubby at Walmart, and cooking up Hamburger Helper for dinner.
That chubby hubby thing is no joke. When individuals marry, they've chosen their mate. They don't need to impress anyone anymore so not only will he pack on the pounds but so will probably I. Welcome to the 64% of overweight Americans.
The statistics of marriage are frustrating. About 39% of marriages will end in divorce. More disheartening, >60% of married men will cheat. Great. I would prefer that if I'm married to someone, it's a contract for life (til death do us part and all that) and an agreement that we two are the only two for each other. He might to, but his mind may change when that younger vivacious vixen walks through the door.
I realize that what I'm writing here is quite possibly what a lot of women will say before she suddenly 'meats' Mr. Right and goes running into his arms, giving up all her hopes and dreams, just to be with him. Darwin, himself, detested the idea of marriage. He wrote a list of pros of married life and single life. The only married life pro I can recall was his "get to listen to the chit-chat of a woman". [Shortly thereafter he ended up happily married but obviously he didnt take anymore long boat trips.]
A lot of marriages are all for romantic love. Love is wonderful, but it's so fleeting. A noxious potion of endorphins, oxytocin, phenylethylamine, That concoction can really only hold strong for at most 2 to 3 years and is hopefully replaced by a commiserate love. If not, ouch.
Everything that can go wrong depresses me. At least with my career if I screw up, it's my fault and isn't so directly influenced by others so much. All I'm saying here is I'm not ready and I don't even know if marriage is what I really want in my life! Why can't my mother understand that?
...and now for something completely different
...watched Vampire Hunter D Bloodlust this weekend ...talk to the hand takes on a completely new meaning afterwards
"talk to the hand he never shuts up"
has to be the coolest Vampire anime ever second only to the original Vampire Hunter D of 1985 ...I would add it to my movie list ...but i think that would be a discredit to list it among so many other great movies
...i took a short trip this weekend to visit old friends ...on the way, i imagined the worst possibly virus ever ...imagine a gas-pump virus ...it could do random things like steal your credit card info or refuse to give you gas or it could charge you for a thousand car washes or it could keep asking for your zip code until you go insane...ok so that's not the worst virus ever but it would be funny
Although I haven't talked to her in months, my mother called this weekend and her first question, "When are you going to find someone and get married?" It's always been so difficult to explain to her that marriage is just not my top priority. I'm sure marriage is great for many even beyond the fulfillment ofthe biological urge of pair bonding. Otherwise, no one would be doing it.
For me, I'm still finishing up my degree. My focus is more on my professional career path right now than marriage and raising children. I don't want to join the ranks of the married couples until I've ensured that I always have something to fall back on. I want to work hard and be the best at my future job. That seems endlessly more fulfilling than the prospect of driving the kids around in my noxious SUV, spending my weekends with my chubby hubby at Walmart, and cooking up Hamburger Helper for dinner.
That chubby hubby thing is no joke. When individuals marry, they've chosen their mate. They don't need to impress anyone anymore so not only will he pack on the pounds but so will probably I. Welcome to the 64% of overweight Americans.
The statistics of marriage are frustrating. About 39% of marriages will end in divorce. More disheartening, >60% of married men will cheat. Great. I would prefer that if I'm married to someone, it's a contract for life (til death do us part and all that) and an agreement that we two are the only two for each other. He might to, but his mind may change when that younger vivacious vixen walks through the door.
I realize that what I'm writing here is quite possibly what a lot of women will say before she suddenly 'meats' Mr. Right and goes running into his arms, giving up all her hopes and dreams, just to be with him. Darwin, himself, detested the idea of marriage. He wrote a list of pros of married life and single life. The only married life pro I can recall was his "get to listen to the chit-chat of a woman". [Shortly thereafter he ended up happily married but obviously he didnt take anymore long boat trips.]
A lot of marriages are all for romantic love. Love is wonderful, but it's so fleeting. A noxious potion of endorphins, oxytocin, phenylethylamine, That concoction can really only hold strong for at most 2 to 3 years and is hopefully replaced by a commiserate love. If not, ouch.
Everything that can go wrong depresses me. At least with my career if I screw up, it's my fault and isn't so directly influenced by others so much. All I'm saying here is I'm not ready and I don't even know if marriage is what I really want in my life! Why can't my mother understand that?
...and now for something completely different
...watched Vampire Hunter D Bloodlust this weekend ...talk to the hand takes on a completely new meaning afterwards
"talk to the hand he never shuts up"
has to be the coolest Vampire anime ever second only to the original Vampire Hunter D of 1985 ...I would add it to my movie list ...but i think that would be a discredit to list it among so many other great movies
...i took a short trip this weekend to visit old friends ...on the way, i imagined the worst possibly virus ever ...imagine a gas-pump virus ...it could do random things like steal your credit card info or refuse to give you gas or it could charge you for a thousand car washes or it could keep asking for your zip code until you go insane...ok so that's not the worst virus ever but it would be funny
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