Well what happened with the boy.... since you guys want to know....(and he may not be very happy for me talking about this on the internet... but this is my journal so whatever....) he and i figured out that we are on two completely different levels, sexually.
He is a virgin, and i'm a dominatrix...a very interesting combination, but also a little risky.. it was definitely fun, but I think I scared the shit out of him. I didn't bring the dom stuff to the making out sessions, but I do have the upper hand since I started kissing boys at the age of 13, and I'm only the second girl he has ever kissed, and he is 20. I'm 22, i have been in love 3x and have had relationships longer than most marriages last. ( 2 years, 1.5 years, 1 year) So as you can see the relationship experiences between the both of us was like comparing a 15 year old to a 40 year old.
Which was Way to big to make things work, or at least in our case. And I was going into this coming from a VERY HOT SPICY sexual relationship with hot b. So i was going from stallion to virgin, and it was a hard transition for me to make since I love sex and getting naked as much as most boys do. And to me two weeks of lots of dating with one boy is adequate time to wait to finally have a naked makeout session. Don't ya think? well not in this case!
There was one day where he and I watched movies and made out all day, after we had been casually dating for about two weeks.. and then after that little hardcore makeout session... shit got weird. it was like we went from 2rpms to 1000 rpm's in 2.2 seconds and got whiplash. We basically just overstepped boundries that we shouldn't have stepped even if it had been two weeks, considering his experience status. It seemed ok at the time, but how we both felt after he had left that day is basically what changed everything.
There was a crazyy awkwardness, we tried to go back to just kissing and cuddling and continuing to go on dates, but things still stayed weird, and eventually, we both just thought things were too weird to continue... He was feeling obligated to me, even though he had lost interest, because he wanted to be a gentlemen.....and I wanted things to go back to how they were before that fateful sunday we stayed in bed all day.
I totally didn't follow 'the rules' meaning i think we got an over kill on each other one day, and the mystery and anticipation kind of disappeared...even though we didn't even have sex. So it is all a case of not being on the same sexual wavelength, which ended up being fine, but I guess i kind of took it personally, because I wanted him to have fun w/ getting a bit naughty, not lose interest and have shit get awkward..but sometimes these things happen, he is very nice, and we decided to stay friends... so all is good.
He is a virgin, and i'm a dominatrix...a very interesting combination, but also a little risky.. it was definitely fun, but I think I scared the shit out of him. I didn't bring the dom stuff to the making out sessions, but I do have the upper hand since I started kissing boys at the age of 13, and I'm only the second girl he has ever kissed, and he is 20. I'm 22, i have been in love 3x and have had relationships longer than most marriages last. ( 2 years, 1.5 years, 1 year) So as you can see the relationship experiences between the both of us was like comparing a 15 year old to a 40 year old.
Which was Way to big to make things work, or at least in our case. And I was going into this coming from a VERY HOT SPICY sexual relationship with hot b. So i was going from stallion to virgin, and it was a hard transition for me to make since I love sex and getting naked as much as most boys do. And to me two weeks of lots of dating with one boy is adequate time to wait to finally have a naked makeout session. Don't ya think? well not in this case!
There was one day where he and I watched movies and made out all day, after we had been casually dating for about two weeks.. and then after that little hardcore makeout session... shit got weird. it was like we went from 2rpms to 1000 rpm's in 2.2 seconds and got whiplash. We basically just overstepped boundries that we shouldn't have stepped even if it had been two weeks, considering his experience status. It seemed ok at the time, but how we both felt after he had left that day is basically what changed everything.
There was a crazyy awkwardness, we tried to go back to just kissing and cuddling and continuing to go on dates, but things still stayed weird, and eventually, we both just thought things were too weird to continue... He was feeling obligated to me, even though he had lost interest, because he wanted to be a gentlemen.....and I wanted things to go back to how they were before that fateful sunday we stayed in bed all day.
I totally didn't follow 'the rules' meaning i think we got an over kill on each other one day, and the mystery and anticipation kind of disappeared...even though we didn't even have sex. So it is all a case of not being on the same sexual wavelength, which ended up being fine, but I guess i kind of took it personally, because I wanted him to have fun w/ getting a bit naughty, not lose interest and have shit get awkward..but sometimes these things happen, he is very nice, and we decided to stay friends... so all is good.
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There are no 'rules' to follow - u were just being yourself. If 'full throttle' is what you both felt like, then that's ok. Whatever 'weirdness' ensued came from HIS response - not from your action.
You were just being you - theres nothing wrong with that.