vestril

I should really know better than to argue with a woman about the issue of rape. I know that she was being silly and naive, but it's a much more emotional issue than rational, and trying to imput logic into that situation only gets me into trouble.

The argument was essentially her perspective that women shouldn't have to censor themselves or their behavior (dress conservatively, be careful at parties, etc) because rape is a male issue--it's men doing it so men should stop.

Well I agree with that, women shouldn't have to, it isn't fair, and men should stop. But they won't, so as a practical matter I think women should try to be careful of dangerous situations--not because it will prevent rape entirely (I know that it can happen under the most unlikely of circumstances and be commited by trusted individuals) but because it minimizes the chances of it happening.

Apparently my perspectice is insensitive and excacerbates the issue. My analogy didn't help, I suggested that although it isn't fair that I have to lock my door because of burglars, I do it anyway; it is still possible for me to be robbed but is less likely because I take that precaution.

Am I actually being an asshole? I realize I can be a lot of the time