venillarose

That was a good insight of who you are, I like that you speak for yourself. That was funny but I'm sure was true, it made me smile.

I especially like your answers to #18, 21, 22 (the second #22), 23, 27, and 29. Reflects the good person I know you to be. :-)

I went with option 2 as well, although I don't have a husband or kids. I figure if I'm gonna have a family whether is a month from now or years from now I might as well have started doing something with my life.

That's an impressive car young lady

I am 20 years into Option 2. It's all good now, but don't let the pace of it overtake the human side of things as I did for too many years. The only thing of value that money really buys is freedom from financial worry. All the other good stuff in life is family, love, and happiness -- none of which can be purchased with money, and time away from which in the pursuit of money you will never get back.

In the immortal words of Uncle Sam, be all that you can be. But never let work and the pursuit of financial freedom come between you and Adam & your kids.

Okay, that last bit would actually be considered kind of funny here in the U.S., but I suspect the whole "Uncle Sam" and "be all that you can be" thing is completely lost on readers down under. Oh, well. The irony of that still amused me enough to write it.

Peace,

SWBdog

They are the best names I've heard in ages! Thanks for the help too darlin, I'll let you kno how it goes, think lace is the go!

I'm just hoping other jobs come up, cuz they already know I have no desire to stay there. So they're gonna cut my hours drastically, D'oh!

Why thank you my dear, always so kind to me

I want to be more active like you. I really need a good kick in the ass

Brilliant, after a couple of weeks you will start to reap the benefits.

Definately is about the positive thinking....time to relax makes me panic...like I've forgotten something haha

Glad to hear things are going well, and you are feeling good. :-)

Glad things are getting better and good on you for wanting to study further...you won't regret it

Good luck to you also <3

(and good on you! so awesum to hear about the uni and your working things out!)

I'm never there enough if you ask me ha ha. I'm already hoping I can work things out to make there in August if not then, October.

Maybe we'll be in town together some day. Then we must drink & dance!

Well, come move in with us! No in-laws here, and plenty of projects to do!

Seriously, if you are ever in the position to buy a big house with a big yard, don't. Biggest mistake of my life. Upkeep consumes every available minute of my free time. I would so much rather play with my little boy, go fishing, or fuck my wife. Not necessarily in that order. But instead, I'm constantly taking care of stuff around here. Okay, okay. I do make time for a couple of those things on my list. But damn it, my fishing suffers as a result!

Next time around (if there ever will be, the way the economy and real-estate market have gone, I'd have to write a huge check just to move), it will be something small and easy to maintain. Just sayin.

All that aside, it is fun to get out and do some hard labor once in a while. Had my 70-year old dad over tonight, and we got the whole deck framed in just 6 hours. Must have been our combined 110 years of experience!

Anyway, enough of that. I am thinking good thoughts about you. I know your day-to-day situation is not what you want it to be, but you have an apparently resilient love with Adam, and Wog Boy has been forgiven, and you have beautiful, wonderful children whom you love, and who love you unconditionally. Enjoy all of that, and regarding your in-laws, as my college roommate was fond of saying, "Illegitimi non carborundum" -- don't let the bastards wear you down.

Peace,

SWBdog

This is one of the most honest journal entries I've ever read, takes a lot of courage to do that. Of course I hope things work out for you & your husband. I'm sorry that other guy was hurt, I can relate to his side of the story. But you want what you had more & that's great. Same with your friends I hope they can learn to forgive but most of all I hope you learn to forgive yourself & clean up, you know

Hey. Wow. That is some very serious stuff, and I am sure it was very, very difficult for you to tell your husband and family what was going on. I commend you for having had the courage to do so. I also really appreciate that you chose to share all of that with us here. I guess it's one nice thing about SG, that it seems to be a place where people can be honest and not feel the need for pretense or worry about what others will think.

If I may, I'll share with you my thoughts. I still think you are a wonderful, kind-hearted person. That always comes through clearly in your writing here, including in this blog. And I make no judgement about you or what you have done -- everyone's situation is different, and nobody except you, Adam, you family, and "wog boy" has enough understanding of what happened to draw any conclusions. But, I will say I am glad you have gone back to your family -- it is SO important for kids to have both mom and dad intimately involved in their lives, which is something I really only truly came to appreciate by observing the development of my own son.

As for why everything you described happened, that's only for you to really know. But I can tell you my lovely wife, a generally level-headed and steady person, was a completely different person for the first six months after our son was born. And I don't mean in a good way, lol. Put simply, her hormones were very much "off", and her OB doctor eventually put her back on birth control pills to even things out, and she went right back to normal. She has since been able to discontinue use of the pills again, and has remained her usual pleasant self, but apparently, the hormonal imbalance that can occur following the birth of a child can really do peculiar things to people. Not saying that's what happened with you, but when you said "For the last 6 months (ever since my second daughter was born) i have been someone else", our experience here in that regard was the first thing that popped into my mind. Not saying my wife had an affair. That I know of. Did you, Vvixen dear? (Just kidding!)

Anyway, I'm glad you are back with your family. Hug your kids tonight and every night. And your husband. And as for the other guy, as long as he knew you were married, one can only feel slightly bad for him -- he knew the risks. Many guys in his position end up a lot worse than heartbroken when all is said and done.

I hope I haven't overstepped or offended you by commenting on this very personal blog. I just figured candid thoughts by friends would be okay, given your candor.

Your friends on SG still love you. I hope you will keep visiting us here.


Best,

SWBdog

Good luck with the moving Venilla, sounds shithouse.Nothing worse than living with someone, especially when its someone you cant stand!

I hate moving too, screw that

I hate moving but after my last move I am pretty confident we won't be doing it again for as long as we can help it..