Ok people of the world I need your advice again.
Story leading up to question...
When Adam and I had our personal problems I turned to my mum and dad for help and comfort but when my dad and I had a fight about it and it got very heated (i won't go into detail but it just got really bad) he kicked me out and told me to never come back. So i packed up my children very late at night and left. We haven't had any contact since. I am not really interested in making up with him because i still believe that what he did was wrong.
Here is the question...
Its my daughters third birthday in a week and I am having a party for her. She is close to him, and I still let her and my other girl visit with my mum and dad. Should I tell my mum to invite him but let him know that im only inviting him for her only and I dont want to talk to him. Or just not invite him at all, and only let my mum come. I know Harley would want him to come because she has aked me if he is coming. I just say im not sure yet. I don't want her to miss out because he was an asshole to me.
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I think I already know the answer but i would just like some conformation that its the right one.
Story leading up to question...
When Adam and I had our personal problems I turned to my mum and dad for help and comfort but when my dad and I had a fight about it and it got very heated (i won't go into detail but it just got really bad) he kicked me out and told me to never come back. So i packed up my children very late at night and left. We haven't had any contact since. I am not really interested in making up with him because i still believe that what he did was wrong.
Here is the question...
Its my daughters third birthday in a week and I am having a party for her. She is close to him, and I still let her and my other girl visit with my mum and dad. Should I tell my mum to invite him but let him know that im only inviting him for her only and I dont want to talk to him. Or just not invite him at all, and only let my mum come. I know Harley would want him to come because she has aked me if he is coming. I just say im not sure yet. I don't want her to miss out because he was an asshole to me.
?????????
I think I already know the answer but i would just like some conformation that its the right one.
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In regards to your daughter, as much as I hate to say it, whatever she wants for her birthday I would let her have in regards to family. It can be hard on you- but until he treats her bad he is a positive influence and that should be appreciated as much as is possible.