I just need to scream, a little!
Please may I vent to you all before I explode, or implode!
Heres the dealio -
I have an extremely close friend who I have been lucky enough to have in my life since I was 17. She has been there through everything that has been bad and good in my life since I met, and I like to think vice versa. We have pulled each other through break-ups, her divorce, shitty boys, money worries and she kept me going when I lost my best friend.
But 2 things have happened this year which has changed things. Since the New Year she has slept with 2 of my close male friends. This doesnt bother me, she liked them, they liked her they both had fun. End of. Problem is she is a bit older than all us and I think she thought she was getting into some form of relationship with both of them, but them being both being males in their early 20s only wanted the one thing. She got over this but still slags both of them off. I will of course always take her side but its difficult because I love them both too and am still their friends.
Whenever I mention either of them she is quick to slag them off. When I mention maybe meeting up with them she makes me feel mega guilty about it. Its so difficult for me!! I have blanked one of the guys for about 3 months now because she asked me too and that has been horrible for both me and him. But he turned up at my house last night and asked me to go on a dog walk with him (something we used to do a lot before he slept with her) and so I went and it was so nice to finally see him and catch up!
She text me while I was out asking what I was up too, so I told her and she completely turned on me, saying she cant believe I would go on a walk with him after everything and that I was a rubbish friend..
Im gutted; she is ignoring me and blanking all my calls! Worst thing is we work together and as I write this she is sitting opposite me pretending I dont exist. Its hurts! And its angered me too; all I did was go on a dog walk with a mate. Jesus, how can that be a bad thing?! I feel like I am in a relationship with her and she is making me feel like Ive friggin cheated on her. 
Be honest cause I know you all will, am I in the wrong or not?
Love yas
Veder
xoxo
Please may I vent to you all before I explode, or implode!
Heres the dealio -
I have an extremely close friend who I have been lucky enough to have in my life since I was 17. She has been there through everything that has been bad and good in my life since I met, and I like to think vice versa. We have pulled each other through break-ups, her divorce, shitty boys, money worries and she kept me going when I lost my best friend.
But 2 things have happened this year which has changed things. Since the New Year she has slept with 2 of my close male friends. This doesnt bother me, she liked them, they liked her they both had fun. End of. Problem is she is a bit older than all us and I think she thought she was getting into some form of relationship with both of them, but them being both being males in their early 20s only wanted the one thing. She got over this but still slags both of them off. I will of course always take her side but its difficult because I love them both too and am still their friends.
Whenever I mention either of them she is quick to slag them off. When I mention maybe meeting up with them she makes me feel mega guilty about it. Its so difficult for me!! I have blanked one of the guys for about 3 months now because she asked me too and that has been horrible for both me and him. But he turned up at my house last night and asked me to go on a dog walk with him (something we used to do a lot before he slept with her) and so I went and it was so nice to finally see him and catch up!
She text me while I was out asking what I was up too, so I told her and she completely turned on me, saying she cant believe I would go on a walk with him after everything and that I was a rubbish friend..
Im gutted; she is ignoring me and blanking all my calls! Worst thing is we work together and as I write this she is sitting opposite me pretending I dont exist. Its hurts! And its angered me too; all I did was go on a dog walk with a mate. Jesus, how can that be a bad thing?! I feel like I am in a relationship with her and she is making me feel like Ive friggin cheated on her.
Be honest cause I know you all will, am I in the wrong or not?
Love yas
Veder
xoxo
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Aww! I'm ready to start showing! I just feel a little pudgey right now so I'll be happy when I have an actual pregnant belly soon.
Yep, I get every weekend off and I am soo glad!
I have a similar situation in my life at the moment with my best friend, who is slowly drifting back to an ex who has said she never wants to see me again. Its heartbreaking.
You've obviously spent time considering just how your actions might effect people you care about, she clearly hasn't. Try not to beat yourself up over it, at the end of the day can she really say that somebody who has tried to keep the peace is wrong?