Let's Not Talk About Sex, Baby
There's something a lot of my female friends do that I deeply wish they wouldn't. If I've been rejected by them when I've expressed a desire for a more intimate relationship with them, I don't any problem accepting that and leaving it alone. However, when someone that has rejected me in such a way tells me intimate sexual details of their life for no other reason than they just felt like throwing an unnecessary bit about who, when, or how they've been fucking it strikes me as insensitive. If they're asking me for advice or my opinion on something specific, I can forgive it. If it's something they're talking about in their blog, that's fine. It just bothers me when it's in a one on one conversation and there's absolutely no reason they should bring up the sex they're having that's not with me. Maybe it's just me, but that strikes me as really inconsiderate.
When I was the victim of it today, having what was a pretty good mood ruined because after I got off the phone I couldn't stop being annoyed wondering why she'd tell me she spent yesterday afternoon hanging around fucking one of her boyfriends, trying to imagine any reason it would be appropriate to tell someone she'd recently shot down. I've made absolutely no advances towards her since getting the friends speech, I've been very respectful about her space and we both consider each other among our best friends so it's not like she'd need to do it to drive home the fact that she's not interested.
Seriously. I can be friends with girls who've rejected me for more. I can still give them advice, I will still help them hook up with the people they want to hook up with that aren't me, I will even babysit their kids while they're out hooking up. I don't mind. Just don't rub my nose in it. Don't bring it up just for the sake of bringing it up. If you need council, or comfort, or something from me then I will suck it up and deal but don't just fucking talk about it because you need to brag or something. I try to be mature about my relationships with others, whether as lovers or as friends. I try to be accomodating and not project expectations on others. I do still have feelings, though, and dammit shit like that hurts them. Don't poke at my feelings of rejection with a stick unless there's at least a good reason.
There's something a lot of my female friends do that I deeply wish they wouldn't. If I've been rejected by them when I've expressed a desire for a more intimate relationship with them, I don't any problem accepting that and leaving it alone. However, when someone that has rejected me in such a way tells me intimate sexual details of their life for no other reason than they just felt like throwing an unnecessary bit about who, when, or how they've been fucking it strikes me as insensitive. If they're asking me for advice or my opinion on something specific, I can forgive it. If it's something they're talking about in their blog, that's fine. It just bothers me when it's in a one on one conversation and there's absolutely no reason they should bring up the sex they're having that's not with me. Maybe it's just me, but that strikes me as really inconsiderate.
When I was the victim of it today, having what was a pretty good mood ruined because after I got off the phone I couldn't stop being annoyed wondering why she'd tell me she spent yesterday afternoon hanging around fucking one of her boyfriends, trying to imagine any reason it would be appropriate to tell someone she'd recently shot down. I've made absolutely no advances towards her since getting the friends speech, I've been very respectful about her space and we both consider each other among our best friends so it's not like she'd need to do it to drive home the fact that she's not interested.
Seriously. I can be friends with girls who've rejected me for more. I can still give them advice, I will still help them hook up with the people they want to hook up with that aren't me, I will even babysit their kids while they're out hooking up. I don't mind. Just don't rub my nose in it. Don't bring it up just for the sake of bringing it up. If you need council, or comfort, or something from me then I will suck it up and deal but don't just fucking talk about it because you need to brag or something. I try to be mature about my relationships with others, whether as lovers or as friends. I try to be accomodating and not project expectations on others. I do still have feelings, though, and dammit shit like that hurts them. Don't poke at my feelings of rejection with a stick unless there's at least a good reason.
sorry that happended to you.
some people are clueless.....
KRISS