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Pencils, Ink, And Hope

I am sick. My throat is swelling. My forehead feels like it's going to burst like an overfilled water balloon. My stomach is queasy. It hit hard and fast. It started as what I thought was just being sleepy after eating dinner with holierthancow and Shannon. By the time we made it home all I wanted to do was collapse. Except my head hurts too damned much to sleep, so I'm waiting for the medicine to kick in.

Anyway, I had a really good time hanging out with holierthancow, Shannon, and her kids. Our kids got along with hers swimmingly. The tacos were good and I should have realized that only eating four was a sign that things were not too happy inside my body. The first thing to go when I start getting sick is my appetite. I really liked the pencils holierthancow has done so far on the first issue of our first series and he showed me a side project he was working on that looked pretty killer.

I also had a nice lunch with katfireblade at Little Five Pizza. I wish I'd been able to hang out with her more, but we both had places we needed to be. We need to get together sometime when we're not just sort of crossing paths.

On the way home from Little Five Pizza, we passed Holy Mother Tattoo and I saw Dark Brooke sitting out front with this guy who looked half wasted. I approached her and she remembered that I was looking for someone to do my tattoo with Daniel's ashes and I'd asked her to ask around there, since she worked there. So she talks to the half wasted guy, who wasn't working but rather just hanging out there drinking on his day off, and he said he'd do it and to come in tomorrow when he's sober. So, I'm really happy about that. Brooke is officially in my cool book now. Not that I didn't think she was cool before...but there's being cool in the way that a hot chick with a interesting personality is, and then there is the cool of being someone that helped me do something important to me. It may not have been much, but I'd have never asked there because I'd gone in there once before and didn't find the guy (another artist there) that I talked to too helpful.

I know I haven't been talking a lot about my crush lately. It's not that I've been thinking about her any less. I just haven't known what to say since there aren't really any new developments. I wish I could get a chance to talk to her, but that doesn't seem like it is going to happen, so now I wonder if I should just take that as an "It wasn't meant to be." kind of statement from the fates and just let it rest, or if I should keep hanging on to the hope. I believe that I have something worthwhile to offer her, but if I'm lucky to talk to her for ten minutes in the course of a month then why should I think that I'll ever have that chance to offer it?

Rules of the Sensual Hedonism Group, Revision 1

It's pretty much the same, except for the addition of a note about mouth to mouth deep kissing not being a violation of the Rule of Penetration. Personally, I'm not a jam the tongue down the throat kind of kisser, preferring for my tongue to meet anothers in the middle and play in that zone between their teeth and mine, but that's just me.

One interesting thing is that of those who've commented on the Rule of Penetration, all the girls have liked that fact that there's rules against penetration, while all the guys have been disappointed about it. Ultimately, I'm going with anything that makes the girls more comfortable. The last thing I want is guys coming into the group to get laid, and that's what allowing penetration opens the door to...becoming just another orgy group. I'm not trying to make an orgy group here. Sex isn't the point. Having intimate, sensual fun without the pressures of sex is the point.

Anyway, more feedback is most welcome.

Rule of Age - Obviously, no one under the age of 18 is allowed at a gathering.
Rule of Comfort - One must not overwhelm another with one's attentions. Do not be overeager. Do not be clingy. Do not be territorial. All of these things are quick to make others uncomfortable. Do not be a creep. Do not make people uncomfortable.
Rule of Consent - By joining into a gathering of the group, one is consenting to being touched in intimate ways by others in the group. Any contact that doesn't break the Rule of Penetration or the Rule of Pain is assumed to be acceptable. If, for some reason, one becomes uncomfortable being touched...whether it be in a specific way, by a specific person, or just being touched at all...then it is one's responsibility to communicate what is making one uncomfortable. At that point, the person who is making one uncomfortable is required to stop what he or she is doing that is making one uncomfortable.
Rule of Intoxication - While alcohol and smoking will be allowed at gatherings, other drugs are not allowed at the gatherings. This is more of a legal concern than a judgement of others habits. Do what you want...just don't bring it to the gathering space. Also, it is one's responsibility to know one's limits. It's okay to drink a little to lighten up, but do not get shitfaced. It's unbecoming, it creates problems, and no one wants to have to babysit someone who has had too much to drink. Attendance at a gathering means that you affirm that you are enough of an adult to take care of yourself and be responsible for your own actions.
Rule of Pain - Not everyone enjoys pain, so causing pain is prohibited except where the subject of the pain has openly and explicitly consented to recieving pain.
Rule of Penetration - Nothing goes into anything. This doesn't just mean no sex. It doesn't matter if it's a pinky toe going into someone's nostril, if the act can be described as "entering", it is prohibited. The only exception to this is deep mouth to mouth kissing.