So, my boyfriend really broke the camel's back. With him in another city, working 10-15 hour days at the family restaurant, and never having time to call me, the relationship was already stressed.
So for Valentine's day, I didn't expect much from him (he pretty much sucks there historically). I knew no card would be in the mail and certainly no gift of any kind. Fine.
What I did hope for was a call that morning, instead of the evening call (or message if I'm asleep) I usually get. I imagined him waking up and wishing me a quick Happy V-Day as he went to work. I thought of it as, "You're important to me and I know you love this stupid holiday so I'm going out of my way to let you know I'm thinking of you."
I got a message the next morning when he called at 11pm.
Am I such a bitch that I think he can take the 5 block drive to call me outside of his routine and, understandably, busy life? I've been supportive up to this point, but I think I'm done.
When do I say, "I'm done", and not come across as a bitch deserting her man in his time of struggle?
I think I'm going to suggest we take a break until he can fit me in his life again. I don't want to wait forever.
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So for Valentine's day, I didn't expect much from him (he pretty much sucks there historically). I knew no card would be in the mail and certainly no gift of any kind. Fine.
What I did hope for was a call that morning, instead of the evening call (or message if I'm asleep) I usually get. I imagined him waking up and wishing me a quick Happy V-Day as he went to work. I thought of it as, "You're important to me and I know you love this stupid holiday so I'm going out of my way to let you know I'm thinking of you."
I got a message the next morning when he called at 11pm.
Am I such a bitch that I think he can take the 5 block drive to call me outside of his routine and, understandably, busy life? I've been supportive up to this point, but I think I'm done.
When do I say, "I'm done", and not come across as a bitch deserting her man in his time of struggle?
I think I'm going to suggest we take a break until he can fit me in his life again. I don't want to wait forever.
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cast:
Sorry to hear about the rocks. 
Relationships f***ing suck sometimes. You seem to want to blame yourself, but you can't support someone who ignores your support. Sounds more like he's deserting you in his time of struggle.
Relationships f***ing suck sometimes. You seem to want to blame yourself, but you can't support someone who ignores your support. Sounds more like he's deserting you in his time of struggle. 
drtransi:
relationships between cities, countries, continents, it's all kind of too hard. somtimes, at least. all the best