Howdy Folks,
Sorry for the break, but I got busy, So here is another moral dilemma I have been facing over the last few days, part of the reason I haven't been here, I have been beating my head rapidly and violently against any hard, pointy objects handy.
So here is the deal, I once had to face a bit if a ethical challenge, I fell madly in love with a beautiful women about 20 minutes too late. You see, she had just began dating one of my best friends, and I decided that this made her way off limits, I mean outer rings type untouchable. So time marched on, and about 3 years later after some laughs and some really bad times they split. I was still close friends with both of them, and very much still enamored with her, so I needed to establish some sort of moral value, or ethical standard by which I would live my life in relation to this particular problem So I came up with the following:
You can only date an Ex of one of your friends after double the time that they dated has gone by since the breakup. And then you have to ask.
Read that again, I promise it makes sense.
At the time I figured this would keep me out of trouble with my friends and keep myself safe from making rash decisions of the heart, ones that sometimes hurt the ones you love. So I let another 6 years go by and was starting to do the math and missed my window by about 3 days this time. She started dating another, little more distant friend of mine. Damn. Double Damn. Oh well, I guess it was not to be, so I let life move forward.
Now here comes a little stickier of a situation, one that has promoted the before mentioned bludgeoning of the old noggin.
So I just had a conversation about the possibility of entertaining the idea of considering
beginning a relationship with one of my other friends ex-girlfriends. Here is the problem that I am facing: This is a relatively new friend (6 months) and they dated for only a few months, and it has been about a month since they were together. But I find myself entertaining the though of being with this women, as she is bright, beautiful, and one of most caring folks I have meet in a while.
So this is where the moral imperative asserts itself and my conscience starts screaming "HYPOCRITE", it doesn't matter how good of friends you are, or how long they dated, even if it was for a short time, my conscience doesn't seem to care about technicalities. I blame mostly my parents.
So here is the thing, I think I am going to give it a shot, even thought I may never again get a good nights sleep again. Or maybe not. Hell I don't know.
So anyway I am going to Mardi Gras in New Orleans in Feb. If anyone else is attending, let me know and we can hoist a pint!
Have a good night everyone.
Sorry for the break, but I got busy, So here is another moral dilemma I have been facing over the last few days, part of the reason I haven't been here, I have been beating my head rapidly and violently against any hard, pointy objects handy.
So here is the deal, I once had to face a bit if a ethical challenge, I fell madly in love with a beautiful women about 20 minutes too late. You see, she had just began dating one of my best friends, and I decided that this made her way off limits, I mean outer rings type untouchable. So time marched on, and about 3 years later after some laughs and some really bad times they split. I was still close friends with both of them, and very much still enamored with her, so I needed to establish some sort of moral value, or ethical standard by which I would live my life in relation to this particular problem So I came up with the following:
You can only date an Ex of one of your friends after double the time that they dated has gone by since the breakup. And then you have to ask.
Read that again, I promise it makes sense.
At the time I figured this would keep me out of trouble with my friends and keep myself safe from making rash decisions of the heart, ones that sometimes hurt the ones you love. So I let another 6 years go by and was starting to do the math and missed my window by about 3 days this time. She started dating another, little more distant friend of mine. Damn. Double Damn. Oh well, I guess it was not to be, so I let life move forward.
Now here comes a little stickier of a situation, one that has promoted the before mentioned bludgeoning of the old noggin.
So I just had a conversation about the possibility of entertaining the idea of considering
beginning a relationship with one of my other friends ex-girlfriends. Here is the problem that I am facing: This is a relatively new friend (6 months) and they dated for only a few months, and it has been about a month since they were together. But I find myself entertaining the though of being with this women, as she is bright, beautiful, and one of most caring folks I have meet in a while.
So this is where the moral imperative asserts itself and my conscience starts screaming "HYPOCRITE", it doesn't matter how good of friends you are, or how long they dated, even if it was for a short time, my conscience doesn't seem to care about technicalities. I blame mostly my parents.
So here is the thing, I think I am going to give it a shot, even thought I may never again get a good nights sleep again. Or maybe not. Hell I don't know.
So anyway I am going to Mardi Gras in New Orleans in Feb. If anyone else is attending, let me know and we can hoist a pint!
Have a good night everyone.