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Saturday Feb 18, 2006

Feb 18, 2006
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how's this for sucky.....

my ex husband (whom I'm still "friends" with) sent me a message throught myspace last night letting me know his grandfather passed away last night.

I expressed my sympathies and let him know that I'd like to attend the services if it was ok with him and his family.
I always liked his Grandfather, and I'll miss him as much as I would many of my own family members.

well today he messaged me back and let me know that his Father wanted to keep it limited only to immediate family. his Dad was an only child. so it'll be my ex, his parents, and possibly some great neices & nephews that were from the Grandfathers brother(s)(or sisters). that'll be it.

this hurts me more than anyone could know or understand. my exfather-in-law has always been an ass. and my ex was started to become him, part of me is relieved to not be part of that anymore, another part wishes for a chance to say goodbye to someone remarkable, and yet another wants to make sure my ex is dealing with this ok, he's very sensitive and shouldn't have to go through this alone, even if I'm not there for him as his wife, I'll always consider us to be friends.

anyways...I feel like an ass, but I deleted him from my friends list on myspace. I think it was a "hurt" reaction. not directed at him but his father. I just can't deal. I can't let him into my life right now especially if he's being forced to keep me out of his. deep down I know this is probally hurting him and doing more harm.


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thefreak:
Gimme a free cut and bleach and you're on. wink

And I can because I have NINJA MIND CONTROL!

-TM
Feb 19, 2006
socrates:
It's one thing to be a friend, BUT you're right to do what you did in your response. Think about this...would he have accepted your help as a friend, former wife, or just not cared? It's difficult. If he's being forced out of your life then you did the right thing in that in keeping out of his. He can't have it both ways. I understand your feelings of compasion, but you may have to wait and talk to him later to console him. If he asks why you were not there, then you tell him that you are just going along with the situation between you and the family. I just realize that I sound like Dr Phil. Please forgive me. Im just throwing in my 2 cents to try and help alleviate what you're going through.
Feb 20, 2006

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