tonkakatt

for shits and giggles I filled out a profile on eharmony.com. this is what it told me:
my personality profile

Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.


You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.


You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.


You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.


Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.


You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.


You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.


You show self-control in most things you do; you are not an extremist. Others may see you as stable, mature and steadfast.


You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."


You have a basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others, sometimes even if it's not what you really want

my communication skills
You tend to be a good listener. Others may seek you out to share a thought or concern because of your empathic listening style.


You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.


In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.


In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.


You are somewhat reserved in meeting new people. As a result, you could benefit from more assertive people doing the appropriate introductions to new people.


Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.


You may be less talkative than some others, but people will generally know how you are feeling by observing many nonverbal cues.


You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.

but wait there's more.... these are my "strengths"
You are very supportive of other people.


You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.


You tend to set and maintain very high standards for yourself.


You tend to be an objective, careful evaluator of situations.


You are good at making certain that even small details are taken care of.


You are a dependable and caring partner.


You are generally very patient with people.


You are skilled at finding practical solutions to complicated situations.


You are good at helping others to reach their goals.


You are excellent at listening to the concerns and ideas of others.


my "wants"
Support of your ideas and dreams.


Freedom from many controls and limitations of creativity.


Time and opportunity to weigh pros and cons of decisions.


Partners who practice listening and participation.


Peace and harmony.


Acceptance in a variety of groups.


A friendly, favorable social environment.


A support system to help you get things done.


Sound relationships which form naturally, and are not contriving or scheming.


An environment free from conflict or hostility.


Recognition of skills and ability.


Protection or insulation from aggression or confrontation

all that and I get this.....

There are currently no matches for you to manage.


if you read all of this give yourself a hug, and treat yourself to something yummy, I'm going to grab a smirnoff and enjoy the reaction with my pain meds....yeah I fucked up my whole damn body again shoveling yesterday.