I'm not trying to slam you or anything man. So I hope you're not taking it the wrong way bro.
I'll tell you about the last girl that I asked out. I only knew her first name and where she worked. We'd had short conversations there a couple of times before. On a Monday I went to her workplace to ask her out. They told me she was off that day. Every day from Tuesday to Thursday I pretty much just missed her. Twice they asked me if I wanted to leave her a message and I declined. Friday, the 5th day, convinced that I was stalking this poor girl, I showed up and she was there this time. She knew I'd been looking for her and said that I looked so cute and scared that she couldn't say no. That relationship lasted 9 years.
Of course, people are very different from specimen to specimen. There is no "I'm right, you're wrong" dating advice that applies to every single person. But some things are usually a not-so-good idea. Stalking is one, asking in a message is another. lol.
I'll tell you about the last girl that I asked out. I only knew her first name and where she worked. We'd had short conversations there a couple of times before. On a Monday I went to her workplace to ask her out. They told me she was off that day. Every day from Tuesday to Thursday I pretty much just missed her. Twice they asked me if I wanted to leave her a message and I declined. Friday, the 5th day, convinced that I was stalking this poor girl, I showed up and she was there this time. She knew I'd been looking for her and said that I looked so cute and scared that she couldn't say no. That relationship lasted 9 years.
Of course, people are very different from specimen to specimen. There is no "I'm right, you're wrong" dating advice that applies to every single person. But some things are usually a not-so-good idea. Stalking is one, asking in a message is another. lol.
I do hope that it turns around for you.