I had something snap in my mind not too long ago. Anyone who has read my blogs might have caught on to the fact that I have an odd, nearly militant view of honesty. Well, that was until a few days ago when I was talking to my Ex. I finally realized that, for all the effort i have made in changing my communication style, including tone, being sure to compliment, avoiding points of contention...etc. Nothing was changing for me.
She, perhaps, feels better about the relationship, but I do not. I still feel like a v8 firing on 4 cylinders. Yet, instead of telling the complete and utter truth, I told a different truth. One that was pleasnt to her ears and that got me off the phone as quickly as possible and without issue.
ZOMG I just learned tact!
The point is I feel like I shouldnt have to doll up what I have to say to my girl/wife/whatever, I should be able to be me and be properly understood too. I also feel like I should be heard when I speak. That Im important enough to be heard. For as awsome as she is, she cant seem to really do that for me. Thus, I live in frustation. But, the good news is all these years of frustration has taught me an important lesson; I dont always have to say exactly what I mean. Sometimes I can just let it go...say something really nice to change the subject...and be done with the whole deal. Sometimes you just cant "win", sometimes you just have to let it go.
She, perhaps, feels better about the relationship, but I do not. I still feel like a v8 firing on 4 cylinders. Yet, instead of telling the complete and utter truth, I told a different truth. One that was pleasnt to her ears and that got me off the phone as quickly as possible and without issue.
ZOMG I just learned tact!
The point is I feel like I shouldnt have to doll up what I have to say to my girl/wife/whatever, I should be able to be me and be properly understood too. I also feel like I should be heard when I speak. That Im important enough to be heard. For as awsome as she is, she cant seem to really do that for me. Thus, I live in frustation. But, the good news is all these years of frustration has taught me an important lesson; I dont always have to say exactly what I mean. Sometimes I can just let it go...say something really nice to change the subject...and be done with the whole deal. Sometimes you just cant "win", sometimes you just have to let it go.
feartheclown699:
Yea i know that shit can really get aggrivating, and alot of women do it just to push your buttons cuz they know it does. Who knows why, they just do. But once you figure out how to overcome the way it makes you feel, well then the ball is in your court. Kudos to you sir, may it work in your favor...... 