the_matt79

Okay I hope I don't disappoint those that said they were looking forward to this, but to heck with ya if I do.

Spent brief periods of time over the last couple weeks learning how to date again. Been a while since I did the one on one thing with a lady, been a while since I have been intigued by a girl like I have been recently, to bad she lives in California.

My best friend here in town is named Brad, good dude, I hung out with him and his sister that was visiting a couple times, and then a week ago Friday I said an off hand comment about his sister, one that wouldn't get me hit, but would show my interest, I knew he would be cool since he had talked about possibly introducing me to another of his sisters. After the bar closed we went to a house party, I saw him stop at a convenience store and since I was following him to the party I stopped too. I get out of the car and he says hey, we were just talking about you liking Jo and she likes you too. So I was confronted with everything being right out in the open, which is only momentarily awkwrd since I do better when I know flat out what is going on.

We went to the party and Jo and I talked for about a half hour or more, who knows how long went by it was drunk time, could have been seconds, could have been hours, but I sat there and got grilled about what I would imagine are your usual 1st date questions. See I imagine it because anyone I have dated I have known before hand so this is me outside my comfort zone learning I can survive.

The other bad thing is that she has a boyfriend that she has a history with, but he has his problems and doesn't seem to be moving on from them, what I picked up on anyways. So her questions were future related, what one wants out of life that type of thing, and she does the cutest thing when you answer "correctly" a momentary look of surprise followed by a smile that says good answer.

I took her out bowling Tuesday night which was fun, and we were literally the only ones bowling which was a little weird. I got nervous about pauses and talked about Brad (one thing I knew we had in common, when I should have been learning more about her, live and learn) too much, which I got called on later and I explained she should be flatterd that she made me nervous which gotme an Aww, so I am good with that.

Lunch on Thursday before she left Friday for her flight on Saturday and now I sit and wonder, but continue to live. If nothing else comes from this than getting a cute new friend, well that's fine. She will be back in a month, and Brad's been trying to get her to move back here for a while apparently, so the future has possibilities, I will just let them come as they will, but I feel good about the whole thing. Right now I am following his advice and not texting her, waiting for her to come to me, but it makes sense because I have to giver her a chance to miss me, don't want to overkill.

It's weird to take a girl on a quasi-date when you know she lives thousands of miles away, has a boyfriend, and shares a mutual attraction with you, that muddies the waters in an over thinkers head, trust me.

When we were leaving the bar on Friday a storm was setting in and I saw some of the coolest lightning ever, so fricking bright, and it seemed pretty damn close too, which was cool.

I have gotten back into socialising with people, I dig this afternoon thing where I can go see what's going on out on the town, though it is small and not much happens, it's still nice to get out and see people, whether I talk to them or not.

These are some of the current thoughts that take up a good chunk of space in my cranium.

I am reading Manhood for Amateurs a book of essays by Michael Chabon, one of my favorite authors, and it made me come to the conclusion that I wish more of my favorites would do this, I like learning their ideals, their views, learning lessons from them, and in turn finding out I agree with them, well that's an added bonus right there.