temptess

Okay, so I am sure that many people will think that I overreacted to the situation, and maybe I did (a tiny bit). Basically, (sorry to those who already know the whole thing...) this one member whose name I won't mention (lost_cause) posted a comment in his journal about how "tonight he became a man" and that his goal was "to splooge" on as many drunk, coked-up, slutty sorority girls as possible that night. It has seemed that the majority of the comments people made in response were to dismiss his behaviour or comment due to his youth, ignorance, stupidity, or what have you. My neg. feeling about him starts with the night that I met him at an SG gathering. I tend to have a good grip on "feeling" people out. Koolthing can back me up on that... The vibe I got off of him (immediate) was one of hostility. I will admit that I did not have a lengthy conversation with him. So this coupled with his comment set me off. If I honestly felt that he was joking (while still disgusting and lude), it would have been somewhat forgivable. He went on to defend himself by saying that in making those comments, he was actually "supporting" women. I am still completely astonished that he felt he could actually justify himself.
Admittedly, I don't like cheerleaders (except maybe the skirt and what's under it) or sorority girls (being the morally bankrupt, perpetually shallow hags that they are), but this does not justify abuse of them. I think trilobyte said it best;

"It just seems like someone stupidly expressing his hatred of an entire group of people to me. I've seen it before, but usually those types single out blacks, jews, gays, lesbians, punks, or some other less socially acceptable group. But hate is hate...."

Believe me, people like him don't "get the best of (me)", but it is comments like his that I feel I have a duty to respond to. The only way to change the way society thinks is to question what comes out of its mouth. I am a woman, and I get irritated when someone says stupid antiquated things like "ladies first" or "that's a woman's job", so I am obviously going to get angry when someone makes a degrading comment about a group of women.

He felt that being sorority girls, they deserved to be treated that way. Just as there are many people (not just men) who believe that if a woman is raped, she probably did something to provoke or deserve it. I was somewhere I should not have been when I was 16. I didn't report a thing. Why? Because I knew I shouldn't have been there and was afraid that people would think that I deserved it because of that. That they would think that I was at fault. Because I had two beers. In retrospect, I realize how easy it is for a man to overpower a woman and think that he is in the right. With that kind of mindset, he could justify just about anything. The fact that he doesn't realize that if these girls are drunk and drugged up makes it not really consentual sex is frightening in itself...

I find it disturbing that I am being compared with casino owners and drug dealers.
A. Drugs are not only illegal but are toxic and harmful to not only the user, but those around them.
B. Casinos are a form of gaming. They are only dangerous in the hands of compulsive people (then again, so is chocolate)
C. What I do is ABSOLUTELY empowering to women (not just myself), as it enables me to do what I love while being paid well, which in turn allows me time to volunteer in community-enriching programs, and allows me to better myself, continue my education, and write about my experiences with men and as a woman for the benefit of both sexes. I do practice what I preach.

*stepping down*
I am off my soap box now. I think I will go have a glass of spooge and a piece of chocolate...