temptess

wish things could be so simple.

Much more assertive stance there in contrast to your comments on needing some one before. Although I *shudder* at any hint that being someones bf/gf means belonging to them. I'd be alone forever, unable to ever give up my freedom and control.

Oh and I know a great deal about living in a foreign country. I spent 6 months in Madrid, Spain attending university there. I was lucky enough that university gave me a connection to a group of people while I overcame the language barrier. How I eventually longed to be back in a country where English was spoken, just so I could overhear conversations in public with ease. Never as alone as in a crowd of people...

And come to think of it- I had a real rough start to my love life over there, so I can completely sympathize. Language is the ability to communicate- essential for any relationship. Social and cultural norms are different as well. It also took me a while to learn how to deal with extremely agressive European men (without starting a fight).

But I did pick up one of my favorite things from living over there that I brought back and still use with my friends: the kiss hello. What an amazing custom- way more personal than a handshake and much more adaptable to any situation. A quick kiss for an aquaintance and a much more sensual one for a crush, dropping a subtle hint...