Got this msg from the husband of an old friend last night that I had recently got in contact with again after many years of not talking on Facebook
Hi Scott,
I think it's nice that you re-connected with Cindy via FB after all these years. She responded to your wife's request to become a friend initially. However, I would respectfully ask you that you please scale back your comments on her status. Due to your shared history, it is inappropriate to invite her to meet you at a physical location or attempt to carry on conversations of a personal nature via this tool. I advised her not to "un-friend" you but that may be an option in the future.
My response:
June 15 at 9:50pm
I have no idea what this is is in reference to, but I am not looking to cause or be involved in any misconstruance of any kind regarding remarks I posted on Cindy's page???
I mentioned a free admission day at the Monterey Aquarium and stated that we were considering taking our 4 kids. So I'm a little confused as to what your message is inferring??
Our "shared history" was a friendship, nothing more. We never dated. We were never an "item". I admit I did have "feelings" for Cindy many many years ago, but she never accepted my "invitations" to date.
The last time we saw you two I believe was at Alisa's wedding in 99? Alisa has maintained casual contact thru the years and at one point many years ago, I asked Alisa how you two were doing and I was told that Cindy had been in counseling and did not want contact from me, which even though I was deeply hurt by, I respected her wishes and did not attempt to contact you.
According to my wife, CINDY invited her to be her friend on Facebook months ago and to join a Tri Valley Ward group as well. I only set up a FB account recently and went thru my wife's friends and sent friend requests to a select few, of which Cindy was one, and she accepted. I believe I did send an initial e-mail to Cindy when she accepted my friend request which essentially said that WE would love to see BOTH of you and introduce you to our family. So again, I'm confused as to what you are eluding to or inferring.
Cindy was a VERY loyal friend for many years and someone I held in very high regard. I would never, EVER intentionally do something inappropriate or malicious towards her in any way, shape or form. I was told 7 years ago, that I was terminally ill. Many times I wished I had the opportunity to speak to Cindy and tell her just how much she meant to me and how much I missed her friendship, but again, because of Alisa's quip that Cindy did NOT want contact from me, I respected her wishes.
I will not mince words. I'm very hurt by your message. It seems to be an inferrence that I either A) spoke inappropriately towards your wife and/or B) that our friendship years ago was more than what it actually was.
I have no desire to be a thorn in your side or Cindy's, so even though it hurts me to do this, I will save the two of you the trouble of unfriending me, and will respectfully unfriend her. I have been very ill the last 7 years and between MY health issues, my impending demise, and the fact that all 4 of my kids are special needs, the LAST thing I need or want is people laying an unwarranted guilt trip on me without cause or provocation.
You have my assurance and PROMISE I will never attempt to contact or speak with either of you ever again.
God Bless,
Scott
Needless to say, I wasn't very happy with this.......
Both my wife and I unfriended CINDY immdiately and I sent this to Alisa, who actaully IS MY ex-gf and my wife and I are meeting on Tuesday in Sal Lake City to hang out with her, her husbandm and her 2 kids.....
WTF is wrong with some people....This guy needs a serious Reality Check man...
Hi Scott,
I think it's nice that you re-connected with Cindy via FB after all these years. She responded to your wife's request to become a friend initially. However, I would respectfully ask you that you please scale back your comments on her status. Due to your shared history, it is inappropriate to invite her to meet you at a physical location or attempt to carry on conversations of a personal nature via this tool. I advised her not to "un-friend" you but that may be an option in the future.
My response:
June 15 at 9:50pm
I have no idea what this is is in reference to, but I am not looking to cause or be involved in any misconstruance of any kind regarding remarks I posted on Cindy's page???
I mentioned a free admission day at the Monterey Aquarium and stated that we were considering taking our 4 kids. So I'm a little confused as to what your message is inferring??
Our "shared history" was a friendship, nothing more. We never dated. We were never an "item". I admit I did have "feelings" for Cindy many many years ago, but she never accepted my "invitations" to date.
The last time we saw you two I believe was at Alisa's wedding in 99? Alisa has maintained casual contact thru the years and at one point many years ago, I asked Alisa how you two were doing and I was told that Cindy had been in counseling and did not want contact from me, which even though I was deeply hurt by, I respected her wishes and did not attempt to contact you.
According to my wife, CINDY invited her to be her friend on Facebook months ago and to join a Tri Valley Ward group as well. I only set up a FB account recently and went thru my wife's friends and sent friend requests to a select few, of which Cindy was one, and she accepted. I believe I did send an initial e-mail to Cindy when she accepted my friend request which essentially said that WE would love to see BOTH of you and introduce you to our family. So again, I'm confused as to what you are eluding to or inferring.
Cindy was a VERY loyal friend for many years and someone I held in very high regard. I would never, EVER intentionally do something inappropriate or malicious towards her in any way, shape or form. I was told 7 years ago, that I was terminally ill. Many times I wished I had the opportunity to speak to Cindy and tell her just how much she meant to me and how much I missed her friendship, but again, because of Alisa's quip that Cindy did NOT want contact from me, I respected her wishes.
I will not mince words. I'm very hurt by your message. It seems to be an inferrence that I either A) spoke inappropriately towards your wife and/or B) that our friendship years ago was more than what it actually was.
I have no desire to be a thorn in your side or Cindy's, so even though it hurts me to do this, I will save the two of you the trouble of unfriending me, and will respectfully unfriend her. I have been very ill the last 7 years and between MY health issues, my impending demise, and the fact that all 4 of my kids are special needs, the LAST thing I need or want is people laying an unwarranted guilt trip on me without cause or provocation.
You have my assurance and PROMISE I will never attempt to contact or speak with either of you ever again.
God Bless,
Scott
Needless to say, I wasn't very happy with this.......
Both my wife and I unfriended CINDY immdiately and I sent this to Alisa, who actaully IS MY ex-gf and my wife and I are meeting on Tuesday in Sal Lake City to hang out with her, her husbandm and her 2 kids.....
WTF is wrong with some people....This guy needs a serious Reality Check man...
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silvercharmer:
Wow. I think you're better off. Though it is a jab at the heart that you would end a friendship, I think it's best to cut ties with people that don't feel the same way about you. Focus on the friends that are going to be there for you.
zoomusikgrl:
what the eff.... that guys a tool. sorry man.