tabby

as a guy, i can say that it is possible for a man to love a girl completely and forever. i can also say that the sexes view of things is so vastly different. you dress up extremely sexy or cute and he doesnt complement you, but that could just be because he doesnt recognize the need to (which perhaps happens on an unconscious level). i saw a coworker yesterday who i havent seen in 3 months. she lost about 35 lbs. i saw it and thought to myself, she looks thinner. but i didnt say anything, just made a mental note of it and went about my business. in retrospect should i have told her she looked good? yeah probably...it would have made her feel good. but at that moment it was just me taking the information in and processing it the same way i process it being cloudy outside.

now i am usually overly analytical, so often enough the things i say are deemed unemotional by others (something to think about; only women ever comment on the emotion i put into the things i say and do)...but its just how i see and process the world and i assume that more often than not, men are more like me than they are like you. it isnt laziness or a lack of caring, its that what we say and internalize is different from what you need/want.