i think you are right. i am going to see an attorney next week - i don't want to bring all my drama to my own attorney, although i might since she seems to like me alot.
i am very hesitant to start the big D myself. i am very stubborn, and have sometimes felt that he is wussing out and wanting me to make the first move with that so he doesn't have to - in the past, when i have told him that i was going to (and i meant it at the time), he would say things like "if that's what you need and want", or "i hope you are fine with calling it over for good" or something like that. but i would totally be willing to do the legal sep. although, the idea of shocking the shit out of him by slapping him with a big thick envelope of divorce papers sounds really good too. then of course there is the money issue......legal sep is MUCH cheaper.
i am very hesitant to start the big D myself. i am very stubborn, and have sometimes felt that he is wussing out and wanting me to make the first move with that so he doesn't have to - in the past, when i have told him that i was going to (and i meant it at the time), he would say things like "if that's what you need and want", or "i hope you are fine with calling it over for good" or something like that. but i would totally be willing to do the legal sep. although, the idea of shocking the shit out of him by slapping him with a big thick envelope of divorce papers sounds really good too. then of course there is the money issue......legal sep is MUCH cheaper.