sweetness07

Okay so my friend of like 10 years is getting married Saturday. 10 yrs is a really really long time esp at my age. It's crazy how we can get along so well and have so much fun but have such different views and beliefs. Marriage is a joke to me honestly. Yeah I guess in some extremely rare cases a couple has a healthy long lasting marriage. It's not that I don't think it's impossible for two people to be able to connect and be compatible enough for their love to last forever.. it's the constant hard work and dedication that frankly we are all too lazy to put in. I've been in a long term relationship, living w/ the guy. So I can speak from some experience. I'd really rather just be alone!! It's just not worth it to me. You know an ideal relationship would be for two individuals to maintain separate productive lives while enriching each other's. I strongly believe in everything and I do mean everything being 50/50. You have to praise one another, support one another. It's hard to love and adore someone, putting them on the pedastal they deserve to be on all while doing your own thing. It's too exhausting for me. I'm trying to do the light hearted thing now and just enjoy another's company. At first stressful to adjust from the other relationship, but am so less stressed out now. Of course we all will always have our complaints. I've seen my mother go through a lot w/ her FOUR marriages and I guess just set my standards so high so that they will never be reached. They are possible yet not realistic. Maybe I will end up alone like both of my ex's have said. Boo hoo! So back to Ashley. What a effin dumbass! Now I am very supportive of my friend's decisions, BUT I also give my honest opinion and will tell you when you are fuckin up! She's not happy now, why would you get married for christ's sake?! I guess like Robert says, it's a meal ticket for her. This is what I meant by such different views. I'm all for an independent woman, I pay for my own shit. I don't need nor want your $. I will never put myself in a position that I can't leave b/c of financial reasons! OMG how fuckin ridiculous is that? And then for her party she mentioned smokin some pot right? She hasn't smoked in like a couple of yrs prolly. So I said okay chic we'll do the damn thing lol not those words but yeah.. She said she couldnt bc he would find out?! again WTF?! Are you giving up your free will? I don't care if I am taken, married what have you, it's my body and I'll do what I damn well plz w/ it. Jeez! Women like this make me want to pull my hair out! I see why parents have kidnapped their daughter's to keep them from marrying someone now! I should do that tonight when I get her drunk! Well, no I'll be drunk too.. hmm... oh well. It's her life, not my decision to make. I can only add my thoughts. So I will try and get some pics of the girls night out tonight. HER FLING B4 THE RING! WOOT! lmao