Hello my Fast times and Sean Penns,
I am perhaps, too self aware about quoting from movies in everyday life.
Maybe it's because it is the only way my husband communicates with people he dosen't know well, and even some close friend and relatives. It's to the point where he speaks basically nonsense unless you have seen every movie made from the late 70s through the mid 90s (like that episode of Star Treck the next generation, Darmock, when the walls fell
)
This. drives. me. crazy.
I understand that it is a copeing thing, a trying-to ease-into-a-friendship-because-we-probibly-have-these-things -in-common thing, but it keeps me from shareing many friends with him. And it makes it so i find his conversations so dull, sometimes it sounds like "blah Aliens, blah blah caddyshack,blah blah Princess bride, blah blah blah Airplane" without any real conversation or connection inbetween. Because of this lack of connection sometimes I feel like he dosen't know shit about his friends, and maybe wouldn't like them if he did.
When I do quote from things (rarely) it's usually to make the girls in the room feel comfortable, it's always pop culture shit his male friends don't get. It's a Kelly line from The Office, or from Mean girls (stop trying to make _____ happen) or from any number of screwball comedies staring Carey Grant. I do this perhaps three times a year. Mostly in a subtleish apology for my husband talking over them, or taking over a conversation long after it has become apparent that he has nothing to say, and is just nervous.
I know it's a nerd boy thing, an akward thing, and a bit of a macho thing. But I think it keeps him from makeing real conections, and sometimes forming real opinions. When he is mad with me, or feeling distant he never tells me (
) but he starts treating me "like a friend"
Do you ever have problems with someone you loves public persona?
I am perhaps, too self aware about quoting from movies in everyday life.
Maybe it's because it is the only way my husband communicates with people he dosen't know well, and even some close friend and relatives. It's to the point where he speaks basically nonsense unless you have seen every movie made from the late 70s through the mid 90s (like that episode of Star Treck the next generation, Darmock, when the walls fell
)This. drives. me. crazy.
I understand that it is a copeing thing, a trying-to ease-into-a-friendship-because-we-probibly-have-these-things -in-common thing, but it keeps me from shareing many friends with him. And it makes it so i find his conversations so dull, sometimes it sounds like "blah Aliens, blah blah caddyshack,blah blah Princess bride, blah blah blah Airplane" without any real conversation or connection inbetween. Because of this lack of connection sometimes I feel like he dosen't know shit about his friends, and maybe wouldn't like them if he did.
When I do quote from things (rarely) it's usually to make the girls in the room feel comfortable, it's always pop culture shit his male friends don't get. It's a Kelly line from The Office, or from Mean girls (stop trying to make _____ happen) or from any number of screwball comedies staring Carey Grant. I do this perhaps three times a year. Mostly in a subtleish apology for my husband talking over them, or taking over a conversation long after it has become apparent that he has nothing to say, and is just nervous.
I know it's a nerd boy thing, an akward thing, and a bit of a macho thing. But I think it keeps him from makeing real conections, and sometimes forming real opinions. When he is mad with me, or feeling distant he never tells me (
) but he starts treating me "like a friend"Do you ever have problems with someone you loves public persona?
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Me, my girlfriend always downplays her achievements and it starts to grate on me OH and she feels the need to always be super honest (which is why I love her) but that includes telling embarrassingly honest things about me to new people we're hanging out with. Yeah, it can get awkward.