I realized yesterdays post was a weird place to start my blog, so here's the back story.
Around x-mas last year mom's health started slipping, we all(including her Dr.'s) assumed it was just due to her diabetes. She wasn't very good about monitering her blood sugar, had circulation problems, and she and dad had been traveling a lot. In the first week of Jan. she went to see her Dr., but her regular wasn't available, so she saw one of the other Kaiser doc's. This man was the first to look past the obvious and sent her in for an MRI. when the images came back we got the worst new's possible..........cancer!
Her liver was one solid tumer and it had infiltrated into her lungs, kidneys, and pancreas. How she had been managing to stay active and do all that she had up to that point is beyond me, but with the diagnosis in hand she finally started to admit to, and show just how much pain she had been living with. The deteriation was faster than I could have possibly imagined. We only got 3 weeks with her from the initial diagnosis until her death, during which time I moved back into my old room, so I could help dad, emotianally as well as financially.
About 2 months ago dad started checking out some online dating sites and 4-5 weeks ago met a woman in cheyenne. After their 3rd date he started talking about getting married, took down the picture of mom, and replaced it with one of her. Now still less than 2 months into the relationship thay are engaged. The wedding is set for the 29th of this month, it will be 5 months, to the day, since mom passed, just over 2 months that they have known each other, and only 3 weeks since I first met her.
Around x-mas last year mom's health started slipping, we all(including her Dr.'s) assumed it was just due to her diabetes. She wasn't very good about monitering her blood sugar, had circulation problems, and she and dad had been traveling a lot. In the first week of Jan. she went to see her Dr., but her regular wasn't available, so she saw one of the other Kaiser doc's. This man was the first to look past the obvious and sent her in for an MRI. when the images came back we got the worst new's possible..........cancer!
Her liver was one solid tumer and it had infiltrated into her lungs, kidneys, and pancreas. How she had been managing to stay active and do all that she had up to that point is beyond me, but with the diagnosis in hand she finally started to admit to, and show just how much pain she had been living with. The deteriation was faster than I could have possibly imagined. We only got 3 weeks with her from the initial diagnosis until her death, during which time I moved back into my old room, so I could help dad, emotianally as well as financially.
About 2 months ago dad started checking out some online dating sites and 4-5 weeks ago met a woman in cheyenne. After their 3rd date he started talking about getting married, took down the picture of mom, and replaced it with one of her. Now still less than 2 months into the relationship thay are engaged. The wedding is set for the 29th of this month, it will be 5 months, to the day, since mom passed, just over 2 months that they have known each other, and only 3 weeks since I first met her.
atlea:
i think your dad is grieving. and it doesnt mean its agood, or bad decision. but i think that hes trying to get himself over things, we dont all deal the same way, and furthermore, we especially dont know how something like that can affect us. it sucks when you dont get along with someone, and it may hurt the memory of someone for a while... but if its a mistake, your dads a big guy and hell realise it eventually. if its not, maybe hell be allowed to have a bit of happiness.. but im just always the devils advocate. i feel you and i wouldnt wanna be in your position. My mother divorced my dad and immediately moved in with the man she had been cheating on my dad with for a year. now those 2 have been together longer than my parents had. while i still dont love the guy, he sucks in a lot of ways imo. my mom seems happy, and my dad has moved on. i know it doesnt compare. im just offering perspective on personal experience 