In response to fiancee who now tells me we have to pay for his mother to come to our wedding and fly her home the same day because she has stuff to do. She just paid for his little sisters wedding in December around $4000, we are NOT asking her for money just for her to be there but she has stuff she has planned. I am throwing in the towel, i give up. I cant take this stress anymore, I have been crying for 2 days and I need to just disappear.
here is what I sent him:
Sometimes I am clumsy and I fall down, but I am always there for my loved ones when they fall down, even with skinned knees and a sad heart. I am self sacrificing and I want to make everyone happy. I dont always say the right things and sometimes I make wrong decisions but I want to learn from OUR decisions, not theirs. It is impossible to make everyone happy and us at the same time so I have decided to give up. I am done. I quit, you figure this out on your own baby because I cant do this anymore.
crushed and defeatedly yours,
Sty
here is what I sent him:
Sometimes I am clumsy and I fall down, but I am always there for my loved ones when they fall down, even with skinned knees and a sad heart. I am self sacrificing and I want to make everyone happy. I dont always say the right things and sometimes I make wrong decisions but I want to learn from OUR decisions, not theirs. It is impossible to make everyone happy and us at the same time so I have decided to give up. I am done. I quit, you figure this out on your own baby because I cant do this anymore.
crushed and defeatedly yours,
Sty
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angeluca:
+1 to what everyone else has said. For my first wedding, my family also had me in tears between trying to make seating arrangements work (my parents are divorced and hate each other), having to invite people I didn't even like, etc. It wasn't worth the stress. There is so much going on for a wedding that you don't need to deal with a crabby MIL to be. You should not be expected to pay for his Mother's flight to your wedding. If she doesn't want to pay for it, that's her problem not yours. I had 4 people show up to my wedding to my husband now. Nobody else could afford to come or couldn't come for health reasons. And I understood. I was sad they couldn't make it, but I certainly couldn't afford to fly everyone out. And they wouldn't have expected me to. Neither should your fiancee's mom. She should be taking it on herself to get out there. You shouldn't have to deal with her issues.
akajudge:
i try not to give advice, so I'll just say that, man, I feel for you in a big way. weddings are just so hugely stressful. i don't get it, either. i surely hope it all goes well on the big day, though.