So lets think about pizza, Vernacchio said to his students after theyd deconstructed baseball. The class for that day was just about over. Why do you have pizza?
Youre hungry, a cross-country runner said.
Because you want to, Vernacchio affirmed. It starts with desire, an internal sense not an external I got a game today, I have to do it. And wouldnt it be great if our sexual activity started with a real sense of wanting, whether your desire is for intimacy, pleasure or orgasms. . . . And you can be hungry for pizza and still decide, No thanks, Im dieting. Its not the healthiest thing for me now.
If youre gonna have pizza with someone else, what do you have to do? he continued. You gotta talk about what you want. Even if youre going to have the same pizza you always have, you say, We getting the usual? Just a check in. And square, round, thick, thin, stuffed crust, pepperoni, stromboli, pineapple none of those are wrong; variety in the pizza model doesnt come with judgment, Vernacchio hurried on. So ideally when the pizza arrives, it smells good, looks good, its mouthwatering. Wouldnt it be great if we had that kind of anticipation before sexual activity, if it stimulated all our senses, not just our genitals but this whole-body experience. By this time, he was really moving fast; hed had to cram his pizza metaphor into the last five minutes. And whats the goal of eating pizza? To be full, to be satisfied. That might be different for different people; it might be different for you on different occasions. Nobodys like You failed, you didnt eat the whole pizza.
So again, what if our goal, quote, unquote, wasnt necessarily to finish the bases? The students were gathering their papers, preparing to go. What if it just was, Wow, I feel like I had enough. That was really good.
via The New York Times
Youre hungry, a cross-country runner said.
Because you want to, Vernacchio affirmed. It starts with desire, an internal sense not an external I got a game today, I have to do it. And wouldnt it be great if our sexual activity started with a real sense of wanting, whether your desire is for intimacy, pleasure or orgasms. . . . And you can be hungry for pizza and still decide, No thanks, Im dieting. Its not the healthiest thing for me now.
If youre gonna have pizza with someone else, what do you have to do? he continued. You gotta talk about what you want. Even if youre going to have the same pizza you always have, you say, We getting the usual? Just a check in. And square, round, thick, thin, stuffed crust, pepperoni, stromboli, pineapple none of those are wrong; variety in the pizza model doesnt come with judgment, Vernacchio hurried on. So ideally when the pizza arrives, it smells good, looks good, its mouthwatering. Wouldnt it be great if we had that kind of anticipation before sexual activity, if it stimulated all our senses, not just our genitals but this whole-body experience. By this time, he was really moving fast; hed had to cram his pizza metaphor into the last five minutes. And whats the goal of eating pizza? To be full, to be satisfied. That might be different for different people; it might be different for you on different occasions. Nobodys like You failed, you didnt eat the whole pizza.
So again, what if our goal, quote, unquote, wasnt necessarily to finish the bases? The students were gathering their papers, preparing to go. What if it just was, Wow, I feel like I had enough. That was really good.
via The New York Times
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junecleavage:
I am sorry for traumatizing you my girl - but you should know what you are dealing with when we all share the same zip code. 
stiles:
That was good.