I recently found out my wife of 15 years had an affair. I am devastated and never saw it coming. We have 3 kids and they are my world. I tried to give everything. She has huge communication issues with he r feelings from issues as a kid and her parents. I always tried togive her space when it came this but s he now threw in my fave we never communicate. I begged for to stay with me and to stop talking to other man.
I ru sh ed to get us into therapy, she went once and dropped a huge emotional bomb, that she hasn't been happy for awhile, that really never had a passion or wanting for me. That destroyed me. Did we live a lie for 17 years. The guy she said she went to said cool with and wondered what could be but never got the opportunity to explore. Yeah like now is a good fucking time. I am pretty sure he is married. Thank god he lives far away. I feel like a stranger in my home. Everything I see i feel is hiding something. Emotionally I am struggling. . The holidays are almost he re and I am not sure if I can fake it. I know once my mom sees me she will see right through me.
I am so alone. She said she needstime to figure her head out. And that she is numb, but she keeps talking to him and seems pissed that I and still around. I gave her the bed, I live in freezing basement, I have no one, but she still has him. That isn't fair. We barely speak cause ei am trying to give space to hopefully have her realize what she lost, but I doubt she cares. Tomorrow I have marriage therapy, I am not sure if I am goin g to bring it up, weird goingalone but all I can do work on me. I am crushed. I am an amazing dad and was a pretty an good husband I thought. Thanks for reading this, the community here has always been amazing, any responses or thoughts positive or negative are welcome.
