So I finally watched "He's Just Not That Into You" for the first time last night. I've been wanting to see it for a long time now (Secret's set probably had something to do with that!) And I am soooo glad I finally did. It was one of those slap-on-the-hand, throw-water-in-your-face movies for me. Truly an eye opener. (I'm mad at myself for not finishing that book since I bought it awhile ago, but I'll get there.) In any case, if you haven't seen it: Do it, now. The film follows several relationships and elaborates on the complications that arise in each, giving insight into not-so-underlying problems. i.e. If a guy isn't calling you and doesn't seem to give a shit, it's probably because he doesn't give a shit.
Yet, like many girls, I'll sit there and try to over-analyze and tell myself that the signs were there. I'm not at clueless as Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin), but I definitely have my share of moments. And for what? Why waste your time on one boy who didn't want to put in the effort? There are how many people on this planet? As a wise friend once told me, "you deserve someone who's gonna have their breath taken away every time they see you." Everyone deserves that, so don't settle for someone who can't give you that, select someone who will. I'm starting to think of being single as an opportunity to meet someone new every day, without the confines of being in a relationship. And that's exciting -- especially when I feel like my heart has been through so much over the past eight months. It absolutely thrills me to know that I have such a caring heart that no amount of damage will keep me from putting myself out there. And maybe I haven't physically been in the right place for a relationship, but I feel like my heart is so it will happen. =)
As Gigi so perfectly said:
"I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there too much but at least that means I still care. Oh, you've think you won because women are expendable to you? You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way, but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit, but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are."
Yet, like many girls, I'll sit there and try to over-analyze and tell myself that the signs were there. I'm not at clueless as Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin), but I definitely have my share of moments. And for what? Why waste your time on one boy who didn't want to put in the effort? There are how many people on this planet? As a wise friend once told me, "you deserve someone who's gonna have their breath taken away every time they see you." Everyone deserves that, so don't settle for someone who can't give you that, select someone who will. I'm starting to think of being single as an opportunity to meet someone new every day, without the confines of being in a relationship. And that's exciting -- especially when I feel like my heart has been through so much over the past eight months. It absolutely thrills me to know that I have such a caring heart that no amount of damage will keep me from putting myself out there. And maybe I haven't physically been in the right place for a relationship, but I feel like my heart is so it will happen. =)
As Gigi so perfectly said:
"I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there too much but at least that means I still care. Oh, you've think you won because women are expendable to you? You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way, but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit, but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are."
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sienna:
Them chickens jackin' my style. =p
toxic:
Happy Hump Day!!!