I don't fucking get it!
She and I knew each other for almost two years before we started dating. We weren't the best of friends but she had a boyfriend back then and I was just a bar patron at that time. One night she comes into work and she announced that she just broke up with her boyfriend and wanted to do shots all night. So her and I pounded them back at a far end of the bar bitching about dating and how people suck. This was a great moment we bonded and became better friends.
Two weeks later she got fired from said bar and we never spoke again. I thought nothing of it and continued on with my life. Then one night a few months ago she comes in with her roommate and some friends and sits down beside me. Conversation struck up and it was like we never dropped a beat. She got up and went to hang out with her roommate and friends and I stayed and my usual spot at the bar.
Moments later she comes by and says her and her friends are going to another bar but she will be right back. I smiled and okay see you then... When she returns she's got these two douche bag college boys following her, hounding her for her number and asking her what she's doing after closing. At that point I shut their conversation out and kept to myself. She soon throws her arm around me and tells me she's about to leave with her roommate. But her roommate isn't anywhere to be found. So I ask her where she's headed and tell her that I will walk her there. At this point she is seriously drunk and don't think she should be driving anywhere. So I am hoping that I can help her find her roommate and have her roommate take her home.
Never found her roommate. So I offer to call her a cab and she says no... I offered to drive her home she says no... She has to get to her car... I tell her she shouldn't be driving, we go back and forth about that then I give in. "Okay, okay at least let me walk you to your car. Where did you park?"
She gives me the intersection... we walk there and there is no car park in the area in any of the four directions for at least 2 blocks. I said are you sure you parked here.... she says yes. I tell her well maybe the towed your vehicle. She starts cussing up a storm... and then starts wandering aimlessly.
We get to the vicinity where I parked and I offer to drive her around to find her car. She said she didn't want to put me out. I tell her it's no problem we will find her car. So we get in my truck and start driving up and down the two streets where she said she parked. Still no success finding her car.
So I offer to take her home, and tell her I will give her my number and we can go look for her car in the morning. She agrees and tells me to head to such and such street... I start driving in that direction. No sooner than we leave the downtown area she passes out in my truck. Great! Now what do I do? So I pull over to the side of the road in this neighborhood where I don't know where the fuck we are and how to get out of here... until this point I had just been following her; left here. right here...
So I try and wake her... she is drunk far beyond belief and is mumbling all kinds of stuff that I can't understand. Finally I get her to agree to stay at my place...
Fast forward a month. We are in a relationship, I introduced her to my family... things went really well we discussed futures together and we seemed to have the same life goals. Fucking fantastic right!!!
Well then she pulls 4 no call no shows on me. After the first one she and I had a conversation about how that I didn't mind that she wanted to change plans or stay home I just would have liked a phone call or a text message saying that she was okay and wasn't going to make it to an event we had planned to attend together. She agreed and said it would never happen again, yet it happened 3 more times.
Now I am still not pissed cause there are some circumstances that I knew she was dealing with and I wasn't trying to be selfish I just wanted to know she was okay. But she found my actions of; trying to call her and text her asking what the deal was, where she was, and if she was okay... well in her words "needy".
We planned to do these things together. How am I needy if she doesn't call and tell me she made a change of plans and I do my best at trying to locate her? I mean for all I knew she could have been in the hospital or jail or something worse. So we don't talk for like 3 days, not that I haven't tried she just keeps avoiding me. Then I get a text message "yeah we need to talk". I respond with "okay when".... and get nothing in return. 3 days later I get a long text message...
"You are a really great guy, but I need to take care of my own stuff right now. Have a great life!"
She won't answer my phone calls. She won't allow me to speak to her face to face. And the letter I sent to her via snail mail... she wrote return to sender on it and didn't even open the letter. I am so heart broken right now. I don't even know what to say or do anymore. It's now been 2 weeks since we broke up and I have cried myself to sleep every night over this. I just don't get it! Everything was so perfect for 1 whole month and then boom... it's over with no chance of even remaining friends? Fuck! As I am sitting here writing this I am sobbing uncontrollably.
I was single for 6 almost 7 years before we got together. And everything seem so perfect. Up until that last week and now I am supposed to just walk away. How can I do that? I am almost 40 years old, I have never been married, never had any children... I have been waiting for the right gal to come along and just when I think I have found her. She shatters my heart into a million pieces.
She and I knew each other for almost two years before we started dating. We weren't the best of friends but she had a boyfriend back then and I was just a bar patron at that time. One night she comes into work and she announced that she just broke up with her boyfriend and wanted to do shots all night. So her and I pounded them back at a far end of the bar bitching about dating and how people suck. This was a great moment we bonded and became better friends.
Two weeks later she got fired from said bar and we never spoke again. I thought nothing of it and continued on with my life. Then one night a few months ago she comes in with her roommate and some friends and sits down beside me. Conversation struck up and it was like we never dropped a beat. She got up and went to hang out with her roommate and friends and I stayed and my usual spot at the bar.
Moments later she comes by and says her and her friends are going to another bar but she will be right back. I smiled and okay see you then... When she returns she's got these two douche bag college boys following her, hounding her for her number and asking her what she's doing after closing. At that point I shut their conversation out and kept to myself. She soon throws her arm around me and tells me she's about to leave with her roommate. But her roommate isn't anywhere to be found. So I ask her where she's headed and tell her that I will walk her there. At this point she is seriously drunk and don't think she should be driving anywhere. So I am hoping that I can help her find her roommate and have her roommate take her home.
Never found her roommate. So I offer to call her a cab and she says no... I offered to drive her home she says no... She has to get to her car... I tell her she shouldn't be driving, we go back and forth about that then I give in. "Okay, okay at least let me walk you to your car. Where did you park?"
She gives me the intersection... we walk there and there is no car park in the area in any of the four directions for at least 2 blocks. I said are you sure you parked here.... she says yes. I tell her well maybe the towed your vehicle. She starts cussing up a storm... and then starts wandering aimlessly.
We get to the vicinity where I parked and I offer to drive her around to find her car. She said she didn't want to put me out. I tell her it's no problem we will find her car. So we get in my truck and start driving up and down the two streets where she said she parked. Still no success finding her car.
So I offer to take her home, and tell her I will give her my number and we can go look for her car in the morning. She agrees and tells me to head to such and such street... I start driving in that direction. No sooner than we leave the downtown area she passes out in my truck. Great! Now what do I do? So I pull over to the side of the road in this neighborhood where I don't know where the fuck we are and how to get out of here... until this point I had just been following her; left here. right here...
So I try and wake her... she is drunk far beyond belief and is mumbling all kinds of stuff that I can't understand. Finally I get her to agree to stay at my place...
Fast forward a month. We are in a relationship, I introduced her to my family... things went really well we discussed futures together and we seemed to have the same life goals. Fucking fantastic right!!!
Well then she pulls 4 no call no shows on me. After the first one she and I had a conversation about how that I didn't mind that she wanted to change plans or stay home I just would have liked a phone call or a text message saying that she was okay and wasn't going to make it to an event we had planned to attend together. She agreed and said it would never happen again, yet it happened 3 more times.
Now I am still not pissed cause there are some circumstances that I knew she was dealing with and I wasn't trying to be selfish I just wanted to know she was okay. But she found my actions of; trying to call her and text her asking what the deal was, where she was, and if she was okay... well in her words "needy".
We planned to do these things together. How am I needy if she doesn't call and tell me she made a change of plans and I do my best at trying to locate her? I mean for all I knew she could have been in the hospital or jail or something worse. So we don't talk for like 3 days, not that I haven't tried she just keeps avoiding me. Then I get a text message "yeah we need to talk". I respond with "okay when".... and get nothing in return. 3 days later I get a long text message...
"You are a really great guy, but I need to take care of my own stuff right now. Have a great life!"
She won't answer my phone calls. She won't allow me to speak to her face to face. And the letter I sent to her via snail mail... she wrote return to sender on it and didn't even open the letter. I am so heart broken right now. I don't even know what to say or do anymore. It's now been 2 weeks since we broke up and I have cried myself to sleep every night over this. I just don't get it! Everything was so perfect for 1 whole month and then boom... it's over with no chance of even remaining friends? Fuck! As I am sitting here writing this I am sobbing uncontrollably.
I was single for 6 almost 7 years before we got together. And everything seem so perfect. Up until that last week and now I am supposed to just walk away. How can I do that? I am almost 40 years old, I have never been married, never had any children... I have been waiting for the right gal to come along and just when I think I have found her. She shatters my heart into a million pieces.