So I'm really tired, and might not have gotten online but I'm really pissed off and I felt like sharing this at least in my journal and with as many people as I can find to IM.
If you know me at all, you know it's really hard to insult me. I just don't get offended, you call me fat it hurts my feelings but I don't cuss you out or bitch or do anything because, well, I'm fat. If you call me white, I agree. If you call me dorky, I am. If you call me ugly, I may be a little hurt but it's just your opinion. If you insult someone I love for no valid reason I get pissed.
If somebody I don't know says it, I don't care because they're assholes and I try not to let it get to me because if they're telling it to my face I don't want to give them the pleasure. I guess it does offend me, I just try my hardest to not let it really bug me or rule my actions.
I guess my logic for why this offends me isn't as good, but I'm going to rant about it anyways because I can't help it, I'm pissed.
Now I've been angry with Rob lately, and I've been getting along pretty well with my co-workers lately... I was talking to a newer guy tonight, Mat (yes, with one t).
I jokingly told Mat, "Oh, my boyfriend is such a pansy!" and had him look at a photo of Rob I had on my phone. He said he knew, that he had seen him.. and I don't recall how he worded it or if it was immediately after what I said but it came to him saying "That's not as bad as the other stuff people have said about him." Now, I don't get why people would say horrible stuff about him behind his back, but apparently they did. At first I thought he was joking and made it obvious, but his reaction just set me off to it being earnest. I asked who said what, he gave me a few names, people who I'm pretty good buddies with or who tease me a lot because they're assholes, they're all a big group, though. Ok, he looks goofy is fine, he's whipped (I had him taking the paintings I did on the windows down), fine.... But they said "He looks like he has down syndrome." That is just fucking offensive. They felt because he took down paintings willingly that he didn't paint, when he's getting no compensation, that they have the right to make fun of him? Because he's a nice guy? They were on the promotions committee and they didn't do anything to help, honestly. Very few of them had talked to Rob, I know Stefan tries to make fun of Rob all the time for no reason, but at least it's to my face and not something like "He looks like he has down syndrome." Honestly, I can almost see it--I don't think Rob is the most beautiful human being on the planet, but it's just not something you should say about anybody, even if they have it. And I don't know what else they said, but they had no reason to insult him like that and they did. It's something about his eyes and his nose, I think.
I'm really mad, but I'm trying to be mature about this.
I do think I'm going to McDaniel to complain about it. I don't know what can be done, but I'm angry. I'm tired of them being immature (the worst part is, most of them are supervisors whom I already have issues with--keep in mind I'm a supervisor myself and I just think they're not fit for the role). I'm tired of them insulting me, I've mentioned feeling uncomfortable with them to the managers before but this is just too much.
The guy who "looks like he has down syndrome":
If you know me at all, you know it's really hard to insult me. I just don't get offended, you call me fat it hurts my feelings but I don't cuss you out or bitch or do anything because, well, I'm fat. If you call me white, I agree. If you call me dorky, I am. If you call me ugly, I may be a little hurt but it's just your opinion. If you insult someone I love for no valid reason I get pissed.
If somebody I don't know says it, I don't care because they're assholes and I try not to let it get to me because if they're telling it to my face I don't want to give them the pleasure. I guess it does offend me, I just try my hardest to not let it really bug me or rule my actions.
I guess my logic for why this offends me isn't as good, but I'm going to rant about it anyways because I can't help it, I'm pissed.
Now I've been angry with Rob lately, and I've been getting along pretty well with my co-workers lately... I was talking to a newer guy tonight, Mat (yes, with one t).
I jokingly told Mat, "Oh, my boyfriend is such a pansy!" and had him look at a photo of Rob I had on my phone. He said he knew, that he had seen him.. and I don't recall how he worded it or if it was immediately after what I said but it came to him saying "That's not as bad as the other stuff people have said about him." Now, I don't get why people would say horrible stuff about him behind his back, but apparently they did. At first I thought he was joking and made it obvious, but his reaction just set me off to it being earnest. I asked who said what, he gave me a few names, people who I'm pretty good buddies with or who tease me a lot because they're assholes, they're all a big group, though. Ok, he looks goofy is fine, he's whipped (I had him taking the paintings I did on the windows down), fine.... But they said "He looks like he has down syndrome." That is just fucking offensive. They felt because he took down paintings willingly that he didn't paint, when he's getting no compensation, that they have the right to make fun of him? Because he's a nice guy? They were on the promotions committee and they didn't do anything to help, honestly. Very few of them had talked to Rob, I know Stefan tries to make fun of Rob all the time for no reason, but at least it's to my face and not something like "He looks like he has down syndrome." Honestly, I can almost see it--I don't think Rob is the most beautiful human being on the planet, but it's just not something you should say about anybody, even if they have it. And I don't know what else they said, but they had no reason to insult him like that and they did. It's something about his eyes and his nose, I think.
I'm really mad, but I'm trying to be mature about this.
I do think I'm going to McDaniel to complain about it. I don't know what can be done, but I'm angry. I'm tired of them being immature (the worst part is, most of them are supervisors whom I already have issues with--keep in mind I'm a supervisor myself and I just think they're not fit for the role). I'm tired of them insulting me, I've mentioned feeling uncomfortable with them to the managers before but this is just too much.
The guy who "looks like he has down syndrome":
orange_lily:
That sucks ass, sweetie. They are jerks and I think Rob is cute. I don't really have any great advice for how to handle it. Just try not to sink to their level. 