I recently had one of my staff tell me that I needed to slow down. She said that not everyone is as smart as I am - and I need to understand that when I'm talking to the people around me. Apparently i grasp new ideas and new concepts too fast - and when i try to explain the concepts to others I seem impatient when they don't grasp the concepts quickly enough.
Wow. I had no idea. Is this a west coast vs. east coast difference? Because I'd never heard that from anyone before.
And then, I read Wyldewolfe's rant. which brings me to my own rant.
I can tolerate dumb. But I can't tolerate stupid.
I know, your asking what's the difference? There really is a difference. Dumb is a condition from birth. You can't help what resources you were granted by the god's at birth. It is what it is - and you can't hold someone accountable for the fact that they were born dumb. and there are a lot of dumb - but sweet people out there. Hurting them would be like kicking a puppy.
Stupid is a concious choice. Stupid is the result of poor judgment or decisions. Stupid is an equal opportunity choice - both the dumb and so called "geniuses" make stupid choices everyday.
To me, the absolute worst is stupid and mean. Dumb and mean - doesn't even comprehend what their doing. But stupid and mean knows exactly what they are doing and they do it anyway.
I've watchd a couple that I've been friends with for a long time - self destruct over this past year - and have no idea what to do to help. It's been like watching a train wreck. And their relationship is now going down the stupid and mean path. This used to be a loving relationship - and now I watch as one of them sets "traps" for the other. I've tried to remain neutral - as I hear one denigrate and outright lie about the other.
I hate it - because I knew what they both once were. and now I'm going to have to take sides, and say good-bye to an old friend. i can respect that people change, and that it's likely that over time they will split up. Whatever happened to just sitting down with the other person and agreeing to either work it out or move on?
I was able to split from my ex without throwing a pity party. Obviously things were not going well or we wouldn't have split up. Every relationship carries negative baggage. I never felt the need to actively bash him for the damage he inflicted on me. I figure I gave as good as I got - I got my shots in too. But I never felt the need to villianize him or blame him for all of my own problems. I'm an adult - if I allow someon to damage me - then I'm contributing to the damage myself.
Was that a mean segue or what? Glad to get that off my chest...
Wow. I had no idea. Is this a west coast vs. east coast difference? Because I'd never heard that from anyone before.
And then, I read Wyldewolfe's rant. which brings me to my own rant.
I can tolerate dumb. But I can't tolerate stupid.
I know, your asking what's the difference? There really is a difference. Dumb is a condition from birth. You can't help what resources you were granted by the god's at birth. It is what it is - and you can't hold someone accountable for the fact that they were born dumb. and there are a lot of dumb - but sweet people out there. Hurting them would be like kicking a puppy.
Stupid is a concious choice. Stupid is the result of poor judgment or decisions. Stupid is an equal opportunity choice - both the dumb and so called "geniuses" make stupid choices everyday.
To me, the absolute worst is stupid and mean. Dumb and mean - doesn't even comprehend what their doing. But stupid and mean knows exactly what they are doing and they do it anyway.
I've watchd a couple that I've been friends with for a long time - self destruct over this past year - and have no idea what to do to help. It's been like watching a train wreck. And their relationship is now going down the stupid and mean path. This used to be a loving relationship - and now I watch as one of them sets "traps" for the other. I've tried to remain neutral - as I hear one denigrate and outright lie about the other.
I hate it - because I knew what they both once were. and now I'm going to have to take sides, and say good-bye to an old friend. i can respect that people change, and that it's likely that over time they will split up. Whatever happened to just sitting down with the other person and agreeing to either work it out or move on?
I was able to split from my ex without throwing a pity party. Obviously things were not going well or we wouldn't have split up. Every relationship carries negative baggage. I never felt the need to actively bash him for the damage he inflicted on me. I figure I gave as good as I got - I got my shots in too. But I never felt the need to villianize him or blame him for all of my own problems. I'm an adult - if I allow someon to damage me - then I'm contributing to the damage myself.
Was that a mean segue or what? Glad to get that off my chest...
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wyldewolfe:
Its been said before you can't fix stupid. I am glad if my rant helped in any way. I know where you are coming from about couples splitting up and the extreme drama that can create. Some people can just sit down and work things out for either the good or the bad, while others just have to have that drama in their lives. i hate that they are dragging you through this. I hope things are going well for you with your new job on the east coast.
ninxy:
That statement from the staff member is complete bullshit. If you are 'too smart' as they state, instead of pitch some ridiculous excuse at you for being less intelligent than you, they should do whatever they can to better themselves. When people around me complain that I am making more hours than them, and I need to be given less work, I get very angry. I hustle, I work very hard for the money I make. I don't claim to be any smarter or better than anyone. If they don't like seeing someone do better, well step up and shut up. I work with and interact with certain people who like to be mean and stupid as well. People who take amusement in hurting someones feelings, or making fun of someone because they are too fucking miserable in their own sad life...well for lack of a better word.....suck.