A coworker told me that I shouldn't be letting my charm go since I can't be masked any more at work and I don't talk to anyone beyond being polite or if necessary; I told them that my mask WAS my charm. They scoffed, but let's look at facts:

I've been single over 7 years now. In that time, do you know how many women...
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leighgabriel:
I know your pain regarding the teeth thing. I didn't look after my teeth nearly enough when I was younger. About a year ago, I had to have the top three taken out and ended up looking like a hockey player who had taken a puck to the face. I was so insecure anytime I had to speak to someone, and yeah, they noticed. I got a few jibes from workmates, but nine times out of ten, they were still cool. Charm and charisma are not directly related to your teeth, my dude. I hope you get your confidence back and while I'm aware this wasn't exactly the best comment, nor did it really have any good advice, but you have a supporter in me regardless.
fullfeeling:
I don't know anything about your teeth, but you know how I think of you as a person.  Your story brings to mind someone I met and worked with on a creative project this past year.  Dude is OK looking, smart, talented, worked hard, naturally likable and empathetic in all those little ways that show around the corners.  He was a good hang and a great collaborator and I hope to work with him again.  And he had a MESSED up grill, with some righteous halitosis.  He was clearly aware of these things, and it was hard to say whether he was trying to be contentiously polite, or if he was ashamed.  Maybe a bit of both.  But the better I got to know him the more I just wanted to say "please stop covering your mouth with your hand like a Korean schoolgirl, or hanging waaaay back physically, because I like being with you and am totally certain that it will only be more fun and rewarding if you're not self-conscious around me."  We didn't get close enough that I could say that, but I hope we will in time.

sad how many artists were telling us how they really felt and we didn't/couldn't listen... :

fredhincanada:
I really loved this album, but a lot of his music is tainted now by his passing.
A few friends at work have reached out this last week or so, saying that they're available if I want to talk. And, I know that as someone who wants to be a therapist this sounds weird, but what would be the point?
Talking only helps if you're:
A. Conflicted about how you're feeling or
B. Have a strong desire to change how you're feeling....
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fullfeeling:
"As someone who wants to be a therapist this sounds" actually really perceptive, and like exactly the kind of thing therapists should be aware of.  A good therapists knows what issues therapy can address, and what issues it can't.  Therapy doesn't fix life conditions that genuinely suck.  And they shouldn't just be trying to make people happy.  They should seek to help people become self-actualized and well-adjusted.  Often that means plainly facing facts.  Like what sucks.  Facing isn't the same as accepting as right.
sheashannara:
@fullfeeling very true, my friend
A couple of young guys at work said, "Well just the other week that girl was talking to Shane, leaning against the wall and playing with her hair, and you know what that means."
"Yeah, it means her head itched," I shot back, and everyone chuckled.
In the 16+ years of my adult life I've been single I have heard SO many contradictory ways to...
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sheashannara:
@headshot so true 👍
fullfeeling:
Damn, @headshot.  That is a cuttingly clear way to put a deep truth.

saw this the other day, and it really stayed with me:

Looks are great, and laughter is wonderful, but make sure you fall in love with someone who will be in that hospital room with you.

And it's absolutely right. And yeah, it's not something that young people like to think about, but one day if you're lucky/unlucky (depending on how you look at it),...
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fredhincanada:
And I'm basically looking for a woman who knows what to do when I have a stroke at this point.
sheashannara:
@fredhincanada I hear that! @skisby I know what you mean sir 😔
Things people have said to me over the last few days at work:
Wow, so that's what you look like!
Who knew you were handsome?
Why would you hide your face, you're cute!
(To be fair, I am not saying/thinking I'm handsome, but neither was I "hiding my face cuz I'm ugly"...)
And from more than 1 person: man, you're really gonna be pulling the...
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sheashannara:
@fredhincanada you were always honest about it at least 🤣🤣🤣
fullfeeling:
God, @fredhincanada - such THIRST!!!    ;^)

the owner of the casino I work at has been buddying up to Drumpf (his nose is so far up the president's ass that when he farts the casino owner tastes it and farts it along) because rich people stick together (even threw a rally at one of his other casinos), and this week they mandated that no one (not even people who are sick)...
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samihain:
Damn....I'm so sorry. 😔
sheashannara:
@samihain it's OK, looking for a new job, they just pushed me out the door faster LOL (not that I quit, not until I have another job locked in)

here you go @fredhincanada and anyone else who wants to read it! Not exactly the 2K words I usually do, but you have to know when to end a chapter, and I think this ends exactly where it needs to:

Neeku sat numbly while Ara hummed to itself as it brewed the tea. The domestic setting juxtaposed with the internal turmoil the young assassin was...
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fredhincanada:
Death has a heart.  Interesting.
fredhincanada:
"Buck the Fuck Up."

they definitely didn't get enough credit for how awesome they were:

richsquared:
Awesome 😃
sheashannara:
@richsquared both this EP and their first album are amazing!!