Women - not just for sex!šŸ™„

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So we had a new cocktail waitress start recently and this morning I was talking to her, trying to brighten her day as I like to do. After I walked away security on loan to us from another property approached me and said, "Hey, I heard she has a man or something."

"OK...?" I replied, very confused.

He continued, "I just don't want you to...
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skisby:
You really are a chatty one @sheashannara! My Shrek-like aura is strong & keeps most unwanted chatter away! Sometimes thatā€™s a bad thing, usually not šŸ§Œ
sheashannara:
@fredhincanada haha, nice! @skisby I am very chatty LOL

never shy away from being open about what you want

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A while back I was telling a friend who was tired of meeting people and going out a couple times only to find out that they weren't aligned with what they were looking for that they needed to just be open and communicate what they wanted to get out of the relationship that was forming. They said to me, "But what if that scares people...
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sheashannara:
@fullfeeling very true!
fredhincanada:
Itā€™s always good to have a ā€œdeal breakerā€ rapid fire question and answer period early on, but first see if you can spend time with each other comfortably. I agree with you!

never know what someone needs to hear

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So a while back a fellow male coworker told me, "Shane, I think you give out too many compliments. You should be sparing with them, cuz then when you do give one it will be more appreciated for its rarity." I definitely disagree.

You never know what someone is going through, what they're letting on or hiding in their personal lives, and sometimes a compliment...
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sheashannara:
@headshot well said, thank you!
fullfeeling:
Damn, @headshot - I love "Stinginess of words generates rather caution and tension in communication."Ā  Because that's what the world needs more of, right?!!?Ā  No, the world needs more Shane, more Fred, more Trevor and more Adam.Ā  OK now I'm just listing IRL friends y'all don't know.Ā  But it's real.Ā  It's just as true as it is cheesy; you never know what it could help, and there's virtually no downside.

relatable lyrics

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I think everyone of us can relate to this LOL:

fredhincanada:
I need the ā€œyou shouldnā€™t have stopped in front of my shopping cartā€ money.

Feeling angsty today

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"You know I lost my voice when I let the rot in;

Hard truth cuts both ways.
Pourin' out my heart, all that's unforgiven,
Washin' over me like rain.
No, I can't stop feeling
like every day's exactly the same.
With a one track mind I don't think I can change.
Trapped in memories, stuck on replay, replay, replay!
Starts with a spark, then it's...
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fredhincanada:
That is powerful!
sheashannara:
@fredhincanada it's another song from A Day to Remember, really digging them!

humility

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A page I follow on IG posted a poll asking what type of writing one does (script, poem, novel, etc...) and I selected novels, He reached out to me and told me he does a podcast and asked when I would be free for him to have me on as an interviewee. I told him I'm not a professional writer, I have just self-published. He...
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fullfeeling:
I agree that it's a fine (and highly underated) thing to know your limits.Ā  Ā But... "what do I know about writing that professionals or professors couldn't teach?"Ā  You don't know.Ā  You can't.Ā  Because you don't know what people haven't heard or what they need to hear.Ā  And maybe what they need is something that a pro simply can't have by nature of being a pro.Ā  It might be fascinating or validating or just interestingĀ for other writers to hear from this exact perspective - someone who's skilled, but not a pro with no pro aspirations.Ā  Who just loves doing it.Ā  Maybe like them.Ā  Maybe to help them see that that's alright, that they should or could be like that.Ā  Maybe to help them focus on doing it for the love.Ā  I'm an architect, and I try to talk about architecture with non-architects as much as a I can because they live architecture differently than I can with all I know and do, and I don't want to lose touch with that.Ā  Your perspectiveĀ is consistently more valuable than you think.Ā  it doesn't need to be earthshattering to be so.Ā  The humility is valuable in itself for itself.Ā  Oh shit, this is getting recursive!
fredhincanada:
I agree with @fullfeeling . I'd like to point out that I often define and refine my skill and knowledge when being forced to confront it in unusual circumstances or with non-conventional conversations.Ā  It's what can make an amateur transform into a professional.

late to the party (again lol)

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This song came up on my Spotify, and yes I know it's 11 years old, but even though I'd heard of them I'd never actually heard anything by them, but this song hurts so good!

fredhincanada:
Awesome! Ā Thank you for sharing, my friend!
sheashannara:
@fredhincanada you're very welcome, good sir!

digging her music!

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Yes I know I"m probably late to the party, but I first heard of her because of John Wick: Chapter 4 (she's in it and has a song over the end credits), and now I'm hooked!

fredhincanada:
This is excellent. Thank you for sharing.
sheashannara:
@fredhincanada you're very welcome my friend!

bits and bobs (as the English say)

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I'm still working on my RPG (got all but 3 of the classes outlined and base abilities written up), but it's slowed down because we're about to start another Pathfinder 2E campaign. My youngest son's GF wants to play (along with my oldest son, my niece and nephew, and my ex-wife), and the setting will be a mix of Spelljammer and Farscape, I'm super excited...
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sheashannara:
@fredhincanada thanks! Yeah, it's little things that can help people :) and oh yeah, if they had honest critiques I'd be OK, but I've noticed it's ALWAYS about the gender
fullfeeling:
I went to college in NYC, and when I started crime was still pretty dodgy.Ā  Every incoming student had to attend a presentationĀ  in small groups given by NYPD on how to handle yourself because so many kids came from other environments.Ā  After describing how to tell if someone is following you, just what actions and patterns to look for, the cop said "And guys - don't walk like that.Ā  The poor girl 20' ahead of you has o way to know that you're not precisely one of the creeps we've been talking about.Ā  Girls - just assume he is until proven otherwise."Ā  It was an eye-opener on how differently different people walk the world.
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