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the brat is in control

Jun 23, 2023
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Saw a funny IG reel the other day where the "brat" went too far and it occurred to me that the "brat" is always in control (in this case, I'm using brat without regards to gender or sexuality because I'm fairly confident it applies in all contexts).

Now, after saying that I'm sure some of you are like, "Well duh Shane, of course the brat is in control!", others may say, "Uh, no Shane you idiot the brat is the one who gets controlled!" while others may say, "What the hell is any of this?" (For those last people, I'm sorry LOL but just Google it on safe browser to answer your questions)

See, the brat is in control because they CHOOSE to relinquish control. If they didn't choose to relinquish control and they were "punished" for acting out, that's at least abuse if not sexual assault and/or rape. They choose to be "punished" for acting out and/or not listening/obeying (the degree differs from person to person on what constitutes what), and they allow their partner to do said punishing. Yes, it's a power and control dynamic, but the brat is who decides who gets to take control.

(And this is why communication and consent is SO important, especially with new people/partners. I know way too many guys who say that all women love to be choked and/or dominated, and it just makes me sad how many women probably felt they were violated by said guys because they didn't want any of that shit. Yes, some may, but you won't know until you TALK TO THEM first!)

So yes, the brat may get punished for not obeying/acting out, but they choose to do those things and they choose to be punished and to allow their partner to punish them; therefore, they're the ones in control.

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fredhincanada:
So, what you are saying is: "In a consensual dynamic, the Brat is in control?"
Jun 24, 2023
sheashannara:
@fredhincanada essentially yes
Jun 25, 2023

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