I was talking to a couple cocktail waitress friends of mine at work, and we were on the subject of birth control. The older (but not old cuz she's 14 years younger than me LOL) said she just got the implant in the arm this year, and the other woman said that must help keep things spontaneous. The first one admitted that sex isn't that big a deal to her, she rather focus on her goals (singing and songwriting), and I said that it must help that her BF lives in the next state and they only see each other a few days a month, which she agreed.
The younger one said, "Yeah, I can't imagine not having sex. With my new BF, he was trying to be a good guy and he said he didn't mind waiting, and I told him after a month that we waited long enough."
The older one said, "Yeah, for me my BF was the one who decided we should have sex." And both the younger woman and I whipped our heads around to stare at her. She quickly shook her hands and said, "No, he didn't force me! He just told me that we'd been dating about 6 weeks and since we'd been friends for a few years before that that it was time, and I said sure."
Now, I'm not saying he pressured, date raped or drugged her so they could have sex (and this should go without saying, but if you or anyone you know has done those things to have sex with a woman I hope the penis is flayed off with a boxed cheese grater and then the remains rubbed down with salt and cayenne pepper) but it should ALWAYS -at least for the first time, if nothing else- be HER choice when they have sex. (even in cases where the people involved like rough or "forced" sex, there is still a discussion had before then that lets both parties know that this is what is wanted)
And, this is not a judgement on people who have different sex drives (which does happen in a lot of relationships over time), but what she said just left a bad taste in my mouth. But, to each their own I guess...
