to groom or not to groom?

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(Just a warning, this may be TMI and if so I do apologize, but when I have a thought I like to write a blog about it LOL)

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I honestly don't remember how this topic came up, but some friends and I had been talking about how you knew you were maturing when you finally got your pubes in, and a few of the guys said that it was a veritable forest down there now. When I was asked if I was the same, I admitted that I keep mine shaved whenever it got bushy, which resulted in gasps. (And yes, I'm aware I could have lied, but I make it a policy to never lie save for white lies to spare someone's feelings). Finally, one of them asked why I did that.

"Well, I started doing it years ago because one of my ex's said she didn't like giving me a BJ cuz she didn't like the hair in her mouth, and then another ex told me she liked her men smooth all over their body. But now I do it cuz I personally like the look of it."

"But what if you start dating a woman and she's freaked out by the lack of hair down there?" One of my friends asked.

"First of all, if I did start dating someone before it got to that point I would've talked to her about that and a whole lot of other things," I said.

"But what if she does like a man all hairy? What will you do then?"

And here comes the crux of this blog. Should you do something to your body, if your partner likes -or doesn't like- the way it looks? It's an interesting question, and there are no real right answers.

If it's something that you honestly don't care about, as long as the request is reasonable I don't see why you shouldn't (as an example, if you don't care how your hair is done and your partner wants you to change it, as long as it doesn't interfere with your job I don't see why you can't). But, if it's something that you do or don't prefer, you shouldn't but just communicate with them (another example would be if a woman I dated wanted me to grow a thick handlebar mustache; since I don't like my mustache long I would tell her no since it would be uncomfortable for me).

Another thing I've noticed is women generally have less of an opinion about pubic hair than men (not saying they don't, but they usually don't seem as fussed about it as men), so the odds of this imaginary woman I'm dating having a strong opinion about whether I have pubic hair or not seems low. But this all only pertains to grooming. If someone you're dating wants you to modify your body in any way (such as getting implants or whatnot), run as fast as you fucking can away from them. That shit is definitely some creepy controlling behavior, and should NOT be tolerated.

But otherwise, if you don't care or if you just want to try and make your partner happy, go right ahead. Hair grows back, after all ;)

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melusine2908:
As you said, do it for yourself and what feels good, me myself I’m a hairy man lover, I also find that during sex being on top pubes really help stimulate that zone 😏 BUT there are many ways to get creative and honestly it’s horrible to have an opinion on someone’s body unless they ask you….
fullfeeling:
I can't say I think it's so awful to have opinions about anybody's body - so long as you can genuinely keep them to yourself (which means no faces, no "offhand" remarks).  I'd be willing to make reasonable changes for someone I care about, but I've never been asked.  Even when I should have been asked, because I held onto the idea that I had a passable hairline for way too long.  And I've never asked, but I do find it very flattering when a woman does something, like cut her hair short, because she knows I like it.  I have in the past let partners know, nicely, that certain things would turn me off, and in some cases irreparably.  I told my ex that I appreciated tattoos, but good ones: you get too many random squiggles for kicks and I'm just not attracted anymore.   I'd be scared and appalled if my GF talked seriously about injections or implants of any kind, but I'm pretty sure we're on the same page there.

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