So yesterday, I was reading some chapters from a self-esteem workbook, and the second paragraph begins with "In a sense, love is the foundation of the effective stress management because it is the foundation of mental health and self-esteem." Well, that certainly explains a lot of my troubles doesn't it? To me, and I assume most people, love is the "I care about you/something" type...
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I want to start out with a couple things regarding the porn industry in general, because a lot of other reviews of this movie out there are accusing the film of depicting the porn industry in a negative view when in fact the movie only wants to show the amateur porn side of the business, nothing else. Why does someone have sex with people in...
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slim80:
I think people will generally be either for or against porn. My family are religious so they would all frown on any aspect of it. Personally do I find it glamorous? Uhm for me it's just entertainment I guess. I go through phases. Sometimes I won't watch it for a week and sometimes I'll watch it 4 nights in a row. I don't really consider it an ideal industry to try forge a successful career as the nature of it and some of the points you've made in your original post. There are some who have made a career out of it and done really well. So it's definitely possible but yeah it's pretty competitive these days and the styles have probably shifted for the worse. I am fairly respectful of woman though hence my disregard for any rough or disrespectful styles that the actresses would clearly not enjoy outside of the industry
sheika:
@sertraline I don't think anyone I know considers the life of a porn star "glamorous." I think perhaps it has its perks, but I wouldn't consider it glamorous. Like you pointed out, it's hard to say really what the motivation is for 18 year olds today, and that movie didn't really tell us.
Hello, my name is sertraline, I am a compulsive gambler and I placed my last bet on February 4, 2016. This past week has been full of emptiness, laziness, and hatred. The desire to gamble was certainly not what it was last week, although I have no idea why I'm doing this. I feel that this experiment of not gambling has failed. Nothing is better,...
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I turned 18 in March of 1996, and therefore became eligible to vote in elections of the USA. I followed politics a little bit, but I definitely wouldn't say I was fanatical about the subject. However, unlike these students:
I could tell you who was vice president, when the USA became independent, from who they won independence from...hell, I could even tell you who the...
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A few sessions ago, I had advised my therapist that the sessions I do, are the only thing I have that resemble anything close to a Gamblers Anonymous meeting. So, why not start out the therapy session in that format? It doesn't mean much in terms of the substance that would be used in the actual therapy session, for example, next week I might not...
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@lavonne so sorry to have to do it this way, it was the only way I could provide an illustration. You might have heard of Abraham Maslow, and this triangle is what he believes are human needs. You notice the very top about creativity and morality, these are things I know for a FACT that you are very experienced with as I have read many
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lavonne:
Yep. Human connection, affection, love—all needs. If you didn't learn how to truly connect with people as a kid it's especially difficult and can lead to addiction and self-destruction. You need to know that you are loved and worthy of love—even if you weren't raised that way. I like to start with myself, learning to love myself. Then sharing it without expectations to others. When you have enough compassion for yourself built up it will help with your fears about putting yourself out there. And don't see things so black and white. There really is no such thing as rejection. I'm not sure if that makes sense. But it's all about how you frame it. And letting go of expectations. In other words, don't do things to get things. Don't try to get people to connect with you. Talk to people and be around people because you enjoy it for its own sake. There's a lot that could be talked about here, but my hint is to look for paradox. Like love comes from others when you don't need it. People are most attractive when they don't try to be. Etc. If you have a fear or challenge, look for the paradox.
lavonne:
One thing you also might be interested in researching is ho'oponopono.
This guy I used to go to high school with would always tell me things like "If a squeaky noise comes out when you fart, it means your ass is a virgin," and "My feminine side is gay." If someone told me these things today, I'd probably not be able to control the urge to punch them in the face. These comments are soooo high...
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For today's therapy session, I'm actually going to use someone else's blog, @lavonne . This is her entire blog on self-love. When I had initially read the blog, my immediate reactions to a lot of what she said were reactions of confusion and a bit of anger. However, upon further digestion of the words written, I have come to the conclusion that the main point...
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lavonne:
When we don't want to forgive someone there's often a feeling of "I can't believe I let them do that to me" that needs to be addressed too. Which ties into the self love stuff.
lavonne:
I always work from what's inside first, and not worry about what other people are doing, or how to get love, attention, etc. Self love is important for its own sake. If you create it it should be without expectations. But! The way self love changes how people perceive you can be very powerful, and very attractive to others.
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It's been years, and I mean YEARS, since I've done anything Valentines Day, like even acknowledge it's existence. Yes I know some of you are married and or not single, but it's all with the friendliest intentions....
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vanissa:
Happy Valentine's Day!! 😊
stelara:
woow! this is so pretty !! you are a wonderful person!! Thanks for remembering us! That is so cute!Thanks for being so sweet and kind !! ❤‿❤ I also wish him the best! I hope you find a great love! you are so special 💖
I recently took a look at who is following me. I do not put a whole lot into who is following me, although I won't lie, there are a couple of people who I really wish I'd get a follow from because I soooooooo adore their work. But because most of the time I'm doing blogs about my own psychology and I usually write depressing...
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twiggie:
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