self1sh

so the question i've been asking myself lately, half trying to deal w/ all my regret, half trying to figure out how to live my life, is this:

instant gratification vs. long term happiness

and what i've come up w/ is this... i think i need to establish some sort of long term parameters that i know will keep me on the path to happiness down the road..sort of like a boundry for how wild i can get in my spontaneous instant decisions..

because i used to be all about living in the moment, ya know, like we've been through all this shit to be rite here, rite now.. there is no other time than the present...

but then, i know if i had not been so caught up in the moment, my long term happiness would be better..although, if you're always planning and never living in the moment, you aren't really living..

so here's what i came up with, with the help of someone who, at the very least, has changed my life:

we are all wired to make a decision that, at THAT moment in time, we believe is the BEST decision to make...

so this basically rules out all ideas of REGRET.. because, w/o hindsite, in the same situation, we would have made the exact same decision because that's who we are! and it's the recognition of this fact that we should imply into our thinking when we make spontaneous decisions, but at the same time, making sure, and stopping to think about the long term.. even though..as so many things can happen to alter this vision of our future, we had truly made the best decision based on two aspects of thought rather than one unbalanced decision.