Calling all friends, advice needed
So here the situation, I split with my girlfriend at the end of January and it wasn't bad or good we both had feelings for each other but it wasn't love and we didn't want to be together. My problem is when I break up with a girl I usually don't continue talking to them mostly because to me it would be awkward bumping into them when they are with their new significant other knowing that at one point I was doing the things that person is now doing. So I tried to just let "us" go from my mind and I gotta say I did well, better than any of my other break ups but like I said I wasn't in love at all. so she on the other hand continued to talk to my family and friends and has been sending me messages about hanging out and coming to the Fire games with me. I finally told her tonight that it would feel way to awkward knowing that the girl standing next to me or sitting in my car for 40 minutes is a girl I am not ok with putting my arm around or kissing, that is over. I guess the way I look at it is this, If we don't want to be in each others lives anymore then we aren't allowed to hang out. She said she didn't want to stay in a relationship with me because she could never see herself loving me and I was ok with that but unfortunately when you kick me you lose all the sweet and awesome things that came with me. So She said but you got me addicted I love chanting and standing next to you and I was like I know I heard you before but come on, I may not have been in love with you but I did like you I liked the time we spent together and you didn't want it anymore.
So am I suppose to feel like a dick here I mean seriously I love my fire games they're like a peaceful escape from my everyday life in the supporters section i can jump chant and high five whoever the hell I want I even hugged people I didn't know when we scored and I feel like having her there would cramp the moment you know what I'm saying.
So here the situation, I split with my girlfriend at the end of January and it wasn't bad or good we both had feelings for each other but it wasn't love and we didn't want to be together. My problem is when I break up with a girl I usually don't continue talking to them mostly because to me it would be awkward bumping into them when they are with their new significant other knowing that at one point I was doing the things that person is now doing. So I tried to just let "us" go from my mind and I gotta say I did well, better than any of my other break ups but like I said I wasn't in love at all. so she on the other hand continued to talk to my family and friends and has been sending me messages about hanging out and coming to the Fire games with me. I finally told her tonight that it would feel way to awkward knowing that the girl standing next to me or sitting in my car for 40 minutes is a girl I am not ok with putting my arm around or kissing, that is over. I guess the way I look at it is this, If we don't want to be in each others lives anymore then we aren't allowed to hang out. She said she didn't want to stay in a relationship with me because she could never see herself loving me and I was ok with that but unfortunately when you kick me you lose all the sweet and awesome things that came with me. So She said but you got me addicted I love chanting and standing next to you and I was like I know I heard you before but come on, I may not have been in love with you but I did like you I liked the time we spent together and you didn't want it anymore.
So am I suppose to feel like a dick here I mean seriously I love my fire games they're like a peaceful escape from my everyday life in the supporters section i can jump chant and high five whoever the hell I want I even hugged people I didn't know when we scored and I feel like having her there would cramp the moment you know what I'm saying.
So you will be at AmCen in May....Ill be there dressed in the costumes you seen...This is my first con and I'm oober excited....maybe we can meet up and party????