well as most of you know me and michelle broke up, i just moved my job situation is kindof choppy. being me i can never have enough miseryin my life, so i decided to add a little more. i started flirting with this girl ivy, i have been literally in love with for the past 5 years, and we slept together (as in she and i shared a bed and cuddled)a few times, kissed and made out, but she says she dosent want a relationship, and just wants to be friends. then every time we go out she makes it a point to reiterate that we are just friends, but when we are alone, we allways end up atleast kissing. she is still dating other people, but we still have our little she crashes over and we make out and i dont get any, but any of the other guys she dates get laied. all her friends say she wants to be with me but is scarred of loosing a great friendship/getting hurt again (she just got out of a bad 10 year marrage a little less than a year ago) and that i should just keep being prosistant. any time she has a problem i am the one she calls, not the 2 guys she is dateing, but they are getting laied and i am not. i am thinking of cutting my losses, caus i feel like i am getting the short end of the stick. i am planning of telling her that if we are gonna be JUST FRIENDS lets leave it at that, and stop the crashing together and making out and all. although i am in love , and have been for a long time, and love having her close to me, but in the long run all it is doing is ripping what little of a heart i have left out. so i need some advise, what do you all think i should do?????????????
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azfun:
I feel for you. It sounds like she tends to have f*ck buddies by the sound of it and well isn't looking for a long term relationship. I had a friend do the same thing. She had f*ck friends and then when she actually came down not wanting to sleep with a friend of hers I was asking her if she was ok because it wasn't "like her". She had feelings for his guy and was afraid if she gave in she would grow more attached to this guy and get her heart broken. Lots of girls put up the barrier because they intend NOT to get into a committed relationship and BOOM love strikes and so they have to try to divert it. She might not be sleeping with you because she really does care about you and is afraid if she does give in that she will grow more attached and thinks that she will lose you. She might fear that if she gives in sexually that you will lose interest and move on to another conquest and she doesn't want to risk losing you so would rather have you as a friend than nothing at all. So the best solution would be is to be honest with her. You talk about cutting your losses so it wouldn't hurt would it if you profess your love to her. Maybe if you did that and she had the same feelings for you so would be relieved that it wasn't one sided and give it a try 
Whatever happens good luck to you sweetie!
Whatever happens good luck to you sweetie!
lorelei:
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