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Good luck and stay safe.

I may be a pessimist but you can't put the genie back in the bottle. If you thought he was jealous before, it'll be twice as bad now. I think it will be pretty hard to make it work.

I have to agree with 'climbit', on this one...I'm sorry it's bad news but the damage has been done.

before I go to bed I will send you a message. You are human, and are not a worthless whore. I know there is more to the story than what you have told us and let's say I am on your side.

I'm so sorry to hear that. There are so many things going on, not the least of which is the difficulty of a long distance relationship. Then you add in your boyfriend's insane jealousy and now telling him you slept with someone else. I hate to say it but I think its going to be difficult to ever make it normal again. You need to feel good about yourself and not let him make you feel awful. I'm sure you are going to feel bad for quite some time and now you are about to ship off to Iraq. Hopefully you will find peace quickly but I'd try to write it off and move on as quickly as possible. Clean slate as it were.

when I was in combat we did not have any days off, and they were trying to kill me.

a Middle East poontang call.

"If you love someone, set them free..."

Unless you've been together a long time and know each other very well, long distance relationships are the worst. And I think there's the stereotype of men in the military going away and their wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, whatever, cheating on them while they are going or downright leaving them so it makes it even worse. He probably has buddies over there, who don't have a girlfriend or wife, telling him you must be cheating.

But like Cunninglinquist says, you are young, you have lots of time. You will be traveling the world, meeting people everywhere you go. And they won't always be military people so you should just take it as it goes. If your eyes are wandering and you are second guessing yourself, it's either that you are lonely or it isn't meant to be. I'm going to go out on a limb and say keep your options open.

So maybe surfing is what you need to do to break out a little and feel better about yourself. If it were warmer on the east coast I'd drag you out and we'd have a great time teaching you to surf. Maybe when it's warmer if you are still in the US.

we all need some sort of therapy, mine is going out for lunch in my hometown when I am there, so many places that I missed for the last 9 years I was out west

When I had to go to ME for work in the winter I was bored out of my mind in the evenings. I enjoyed the summers because you could get outside. I don't envy you. At least this winter hasn't been as cold as usual. Not that that probably makes you feel any better.

Welcome. Hopefully SG will help you pass those three years a little more quickly. I used to work with a company in Camden and ME is not exactly the most exciting place in the world but it's sure beautiful.