So, hello everyone 
I've decided to repost an introduction letter, I've posted elsewhere here, because I think it does a good job at, well, introducing myself. Well at least some facets of me. Polyamroy in particular. So here it is.
My name is Shane, and I'm a 28 year old Asian-American guy living in the East Lansing area. I'm new to polyamory as of this year, and would be interested to learn more about the lifestyle. I'm a late bloomer, and my first real relationship started this year. So I decided to just dive head first into a polyamorous relationship, lol. It definately wasn't what I had started out looking for, but it openned my eyes to new possibilities. I started seeing my girlfriend this past April. She's polyamorous, and was in a relationship with two other people.
At first I was wary because I wasn't used to the concept, which is weird because it comes so natural to me in other parts of my life. I'm an ex-Christian, and I'm still recovering from all the damage the church did to me. It wasn't all bad. It did instill in me the desire to earnestly connect with people, and try to love them for who they are. So I asked myself why not polyamory. I don't have any moral qualms with it, I'm not the jealous type, I have a big heart, and I love pushing my boundaries. I still have logistical concerns, but I think those can be worked out through open, honest communication, and love.
We've had a few ups, and downs since then, but it has really been a wonderful thing. Through open, honest communication we've resolved our issues, and made sure we were meeting each other's needs. I'm not sure whether it's harder because I'm monogamous at this time, but I suspect so. She has done a wonderful job respecting my needs, but it can be tough at times with time/money constraints.
So far I'm still monogamous, but I would love to experience polyamory more fully. I feel like I won't truly understand it until I meet another special someone to share my life with. It's hard to explain as I am very happy with my girlfriend. It's the struggle between being content with where you are, and wanting to grow more. It's good to be content, and at peace, but it is also good to grow.
Hope everyone is having a wonderful holiday season.
Peace,
Shane
I've decided to repost an introduction letter, I've posted elsewhere here, because I think it does a good job at, well, introducing myself. Well at least some facets of me. Polyamroy in particular. So here it is.
My name is Shane, and I'm a 28 year old Asian-American guy living in the East Lansing area. I'm new to polyamory as of this year, and would be interested to learn more about the lifestyle. I'm a late bloomer, and my first real relationship started this year. So I decided to just dive head first into a polyamorous relationship, lol. It definately wasn't what I had started out looking for, but it openned my eyes to new possibilities. I started seeing my girlfriend this past April. She's polyamorous, and was in a relationship with two other people.
At first I was wary because I wasn't used to the concept, which is weird because it comes so natural to me in other parts of my life. I'm an ex-Christian, and I'm still recovering from all the damage the church did to me. It wasn't all bad. It did instill in me the desire to earnestly connect with people, and try to love them for who they are. So I asked myself why not polyamory. I don't have any moral qualms with it, I'm not the jealous type, I have a big heart, and I love pushing my boundaries. I still have logistical concerns, but I think those can be worked out through open, honest communication, and love.
We've had a few ups, and downs since then, but it has really been a wonderful thing. Through open, honest communication we've resolved our issues, and made sure we were meeting each other's needs. I'm not sure whether it's harder because I'm monogamous at this time, but I suspect so. She has done a wonderful job respecting my needs, but it can be tough at times with time/money constraints.
So far I'm still monogamous, but I would love to experience polyamory more fully. I feel like I won't truly understand it until I meet another special someone to share my life with. It's hard to explain as I am very happy with my girlfriend. It's the struggle between being content with where you are, and wanting to grow more. It's good to be content, and at peace, but it is also good to grow.
Hope everyone is having a wonderful holiday season.
Peace,
Shane
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There are a lot of myths and prejudices out there about polyamory, so I'd advise anyone to educate themselves, on the subject before making to many judgements.
Here are some links people can check out if they so desire.
http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html
and
http://www.polyamory.org/