Now first and foremost these are just my observations from my own past relationships and things I have read so outside looking in inside looking out that said let us begin. And I’m not speaking for everyone on the spectrum I mean we’re all different you meet one one aspie you’ve met one aspie
First thing that comes to mind is one when you’re trying to get into a relationship with an aspie especially the fully self aware ones you need to lay it all out front if you’re being serious because one we already over think things due to the stigma around mental disorders and what not me personally I’m on the defensive immediately so taking it slow is personal I mean I still have some trust issues like small chat is ok and all it’s just the very bare bones that you’ll have to take your time with just try to find that middle ground thing the interest that is your in like with me video games, music, nerdy shit in general but in general aspies are very shut in so you’ll more then likely have to engage first take that first step but just be aware they will latch on in a way in general if they do something that you don’t like cool down but don’t take too long because they’ll start to internalize and try to figure out what they did wrong and end up in a mental hole in a way and not a good one me personally I’m a fixer but I’m not a psychic so let’s relax and figure it out oh and a bit one hints don’t work we’re very literal people and to touch again on that first step that first engagement if I personally make the first step then hey I’m actually interested in you as who you really are
As far as physical contact I personally don’t like being touched I mean I’ve worked on that one hard this past year but generally with anyone on the spectrum they have triggers that can set them off in many ways hell I use to be a major rage case when I was a teen still have a moment or two once in a blue moon but I know when to walk away now like I can play the shirt out of single player games and have a laugh when I fail even rage games like I am bread but multi player games like MMOs ie my time sink Warcraft yeah last time I checked logs I was in the top 3% for warrior tanks and they are the most used tank currently but as far as the rest of my raid yeah can’t say the same “fire gives a buff right?” Anyways back on track as far as like sex and what not I’m all ready to go keep in mind that I’ve been losing weight so the libido has spiked something fierce so I hope your body and safe work is ready haha.
I really hope this has helped some people on the outside looking in
If you have any questions just ask them in the comments I’ll answer what I can.