If anyone still reads this, i just thought id send an update.
Saturday my dad passed away.
He has been struggling with a blood clot and a dissection for awhile, a month to be exact. He went in to the hospital for a 3rd time on thursday night in excruciating pain, and none of the doctors wanted to act on it, and it took the weekend doctor coming in and taking one look at his CaT scans and saying emergency surgery was needed.
Through all this, we had no idea how serious it was. I never in a million years thought he would die.
They took him in, yelling in pain with "help me", "am i gunna die?" "Please, please, please!!" And only 1 hour into surgery they came back to waiting and told us all his small intestine and colon were dead, and the damage was too extensive. So they patched him back up while we wailed and sobbed and called family.
My step mom wanted him completely unconscious with pain meds so that he didnt feel anything. I regret that, but i know it was for the best. He was scared, and in a lot of pain. I just wish i could have talked to him one last time.
I was there when he passed (along with almost 20 others who made it there). Im glad i could be there for him and hold his hand. Im at peace with my relationship with my father. I knew he was proud of me for WHATEVER i did. Even SG. It didnt matter to him. As long as i was happy, he was happy.
Theres a lawsuit in this. I feel bad for resorting to it. But he had WAY more blood clots than we knew, but they missed them ON THE SCAN. I know it wont bring him back, but i dont want anyone else going thru this.
Your prayers and thoughts are most humbly appreciated. My break will be extended even more now.
Email: riversongsuicide@gmail.com
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Saturday my dad passed away.
He has been struggling with a blood clot and a dissection for awhile, a month to be exact. He went in to the hospital for a 3rd time on thursday night in excruciating pain, and none of the doctors wanted to act on it, and it took the weekend doctor coming in and taking one look at his CaT scans and saying emergency surgery was needed.
Through all this, we had no idea how serious it was. I never in a million years thought he would die.
They took him in, yelling in pain with "help me", "am i gunna die?" "Please, please, please!!" And only 1 hour into surgery they came back to waiting and told us all his small intestine and colon were dead, and the damage was too extensive. So they patched him back up while we wailed and sobbed and called family.
My step mom wanted him completely unconscious with pain meds so that he didnt feel anything. I regret that, but i know it was for the best. He was scared, and in a lot of pain. I just wish i could have talked to him one last time.
I was there when he passed (along with almost 20 others who made it there). Im glad i could be there for him and hold his hand. Im at peace with my relationship with my father. I knew he was proud of me for WHATEVER i did. Even SG. It didnt matter to him. As long as i was happy, he was happy.
Theres a lawsuit in this. I feel bad for resorting to it. But he had WAY more blood clots than we knew, but they missed them ON THE SCAN. I know it wont bring him back, but i dont want anyone else going thru this.
Your prayers and thoughts are most humbly appreciated. My break will be extended even more now.
Email: riversongsuicide@gmail.com
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beeryusa:
So very sorry to hear about your dad. Sadly, although we pay more and more for it, healthcare seems to be getting worse in this country - more and more incompetence because the system is way too corrupt with all the money going to insurance and very little getting to the caregivers.
bitten:
so sorry to hear. big hugs.