rephrased

Well, I had my talk with Carla. It seems that the problem is mostly that she's recently broken up with her ex, with whom she's still living. They were together a long time, and spent all their time together, so she's busy doing all those things she hasn't had time to do on her own over the last four years, and really isn't looking for a boyfriend right now. I told her that was fine, and that I wasn't ready to jump into anything serious with anyone anyway, and was seeing other people, as well. I told her I think she knows that I think a lot of her, but I wanted her to know it's not only in a dating way. She's one of the coolest people I've met in a while, and if she has spare time that she'd like to spend with someone, It would make me really happy to spend some of that time, whatever it may or may not mean. I think it went over pretty well. She seemed a little uncomfortable at first after we cleared the air, but then we started talking about Neil Diamond and Lenoard Nimoy (yes, we are geeks) and she opened right up again. We went to the concert, and SFA were so-so, but Papa M really kicked ass in a Will Oldham/Iron & Wine non-ass-kicking kind of way. Carla and I are supposed to catch a movie this week, and when I wouldn't let her pay me back for the concert tickets, she told me she'd have to buy some tickets to a cool show and drag me along, which to me means she's down with the idea of spending time with me. So under the circumstances, I don't think I could have asked for much more. (Also, the current ex started as a friend, then became a friend with benefits, then started spending every weekend together, then they woke up one morning and realized, "Oh my God, we've been dating for a year!" So the way I see it, I'm also positioning myself for a stealth boyfriend maneuver... ) I'm so sly...