Ethical point of view. Please respect it.
I had this very good friend a few years back. We were always together, partying, working, going to the same college... I'm a bit older than her so eventually we grew appart. Which is super normal I think. We still talk a few times a years.
She got hit by a bus on Halloween night. Badly. At first the news were saying that she actually died on site. Then I learned that she survived, but was in critical condition. Getting any kind of news was a bit difficult. I didn't feel close enough anymore to go to the icu, and her parents weren't answering phone calls or emails. I got a bit of information from one of our mutual friend with whom she stayed close. And everthing I heard was so bad I couldn't believe her parents were letting all that happen to her. She had multiple intracranial bleeds, was operated on 4 times (well, so far) induced coma, a while later she got a tracheotomy... I'm a trauma er nurse. I know the odds of making it. But since her parents weren't sharing any information, and had forbidden the medical staff to say anything to anyone besides them, I hoped she was one of the lucky ones. Her friend was telling me that she was being fed and that she had opened her eyes... But was still in a coma.
For my pregnancy I am followed at the same hospital were she is. Yesterday, I had my regular weekly apointment. While I was waiting for the elevator, the doors opened. And she was there, in a bed. Hooked up to every life supporting machin known to man. Half her skull missing. Her skin gray and clammy. Her eyes open but blind. A trach tube in her neck. I was in total shock. Although I knew that she was probably much worst than her family was letting believe, I didn't imagine she was that bad. It is obvious that she got injured beyond what they let us believe. My old friend is not there anymore. What the fuck are her parents doing to her? Maintaining her alive, why? If she could see herself right now, she would be devastated. After 6 weeks of coma, with such extensive injuries, who are they kidding. I can kind of see why, she is 25 years old. She had all her life in front of her. But she's not there anymore. She's in a vegetative state.
Fuck, just let her go. It's torture.
I had this very good friend a few years back. We were always together, partying, working, going to the same college... I'm a bit older than her so eventually we grew appart. Which is super normal I think. We still talk a few times a years.
She got hit by a bus on Halloween night. Badly. At first the news were saying that she actually died on site. Then I learned that she survived, but was in critical condition. Getting any kind of news was a bit difficult. I didn't feel close enough anymore to go to the icu, and her parents weren't answering phone calls or emails. I got a bit of information from one of our mutual friend with whom she stayed close. And everthing I heard was so bad I couldn't believe her parents were letting all that happen to her. She had multiple intracranial bleeds, was operated on 4 times (well, so far) induced coma, a while later she got a tracheotomy... I'm a trauma er nurse. I know the odds of making it. But since her parents weren't sharing any information, and had forbidden the medical staff to say anything to anyone besides them, I hoped she was one of the lucky ones. Her friend was telling me that she was being fed and that she had opened her eyes... But was still in a coma.
For my pregnancy I am followed at the same hospital were she is. Yesterday, I had my regular weekly apointment. While I was waiting for the elevator, the doors opened. And she was there, in a bed. Hooked up to every life supporting machin known to man. Half her skull missing. Her skin gray and clammy. Her eyes open but blind. A trach tube in her neck. I was in total shock. Although I knew that she was probably much worst than her family was letting believe, I didn't imagine she was that bad. It is obvious that she got injured beyond what they let us believe. My old friend is not there anymore. What the fuck are her parents doing to her? Maintaining her alive, why? If she could see herself right now, she would be devastated. After 6 weeks of coma, with such extensive injuries, who are they kidding. I can kind of see why, she is 25 years old. She had all her life in front of her. But she's not there anymore. She's in a vegetative state.
Fuck, just let her go. It's torture.
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It must be really tough on a parent to let go of one of their children.
Sad you had to bump into your friend like that also.
Hope you are ok.