Here it is almost a week later and I'm updating on my lunch. It was fantastic!! I haven't seen my friend, the wonderful Catiedid, in some time. And she always has a nack for beating me to the destination, no matter how early I try to leave. She beat me again by 5 seconds. I pulled in just as she was parking her car. meh.
We greet each other with a big hug and proceed inside. Now, I know this is totally dumb, but I was nervous, as though we had never met or something. I've known her for 2 years, and we talk often, but face-to-face sometimes puts me on edge. So I stand there, making idle chitchat thinking about just what I can say given the time limit of 1 hour to work with. Should I say things of great civil improtance? Should I make reference to the amount of beer I consumed last weekend? My mind locks up... just for a small moment... then I relax, remember that the reason we are friends is because she really doesn't care if what I say has huge importance, just as long as I speak honestly. I made a few jokes about this and that, and then it was like nothing was ever wrong. We talked for almost the entire time, excusing ourselves for the occasional chewing-while-speaking occurances, and had a good afternoon. Of course after it was over I had a ton of things come into my mind that I wish I would have said. Perhaps next time...
And as always we apologize for allowing time to get away from us. We say more lunches in shorter intervals. But there can be no expectations, I have realized this. If I put too much into it, my feelings will get hurt. Simple as that. And here's why: Catiedid has a husband and family. I only have myself. It took me a few cancelled lunches to come to terms with this fact. If I got upset because her child is sick and she has to take care of her, then what kind of friend am I? I might get my feelings hurt, but I'll get over it, because family takes priority. And sometimes you have to adapt to what situation is presented to you. I know that I will probably only see her twice a year if I'm lucky, and I'm ok with that. I still have emails. So I kind of think of our relationship as a pen pal set-up. It's worked fine so far.
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word of the day
epochal adj - highly significant or momentous
ie. For although our conversation was not epochal, the words soothed our minds and brought laughter to your lips.
We greet each other with a big hug and proceed inside. Now, I know this is totally dumb, but I was nervous, as though we had never met or something. I've known her for 2 years, and we talk often, but face-to-face sometimes puts me on edge. So I stand there, making idle chitchat thinking about just what I can say given the time limit of 1 hour to work with. Should I say things of great civil improtance? Should I make reference to the amount of beer I consumed last weekend? My mind locks up... just for a small moment... then I relax, remember that the reason we are friends is because she really doesn't care if what I say has huge importance, just as long as I speak honestly. I made a few jokes about this and that, and then it was like nothing was ever wrong. We talked for almost the entire time, excusing ourselves for the occasional chewing-while-speaking occurances, and had a good afternoon. Of course after it was over I had a ton of things come into my mind that I wish I would have said. Perhaps next time...
And as always we apologize for allowing time to get away from us. We say more lunches in shorter intervals. But there can be no expectations, I have realized this. If I put too much into it, my feelings will get hurt. Simple as that. And here's why: Catiedid has a husband and family. I only have myself. It took me a few cancelled lunches to come to terms with this fact. If I got upset because her child is sick and she has to take care of her, then what kind of friend am I? I might get my feelings hurt, but I'll get over it, because family takes priority. And sometimes you have to adapt to what situation is presented to you. I know that I will probably only see her twice a year if I'm lucky, and I'm ok with that. I still have emails. So I kind of think of our relationship as a pen pal set-up. It's worked fine so far.
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word of the day
epochal adj - highly significant or momentous
ie. For although our conversation was not epochal, the words soothed our minds and brought laughter to your lips.
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thanks!