I stayed up untill 4 in the morning talking with a really good friend of mine. Normally, this is a good thing, but last night she asked me to psychoanalyze her, and to tell her what I really thought.
I don't think you should ever do that to soembody. There are only two real truthful outcomes. Either you tell them how you feel, and then they feel hurt and pissed on and that you're not really their friend, or you tell them the truth and they feel validated, and loved, and that they have worth.
But even though the second one seems good, I don't like what it engenders. Everybody needs to be okay with themselves, and they can't rely on anyone but them to say that they're a good person.
I love my friends, and I tell them, but I can't convince them to love themselves.
I don't think you should ever do that to soembody. There are only two real truthful outcomes. Either you tell them how you feel, and then they feel hurt and pissed on and that you're not really their friend, or you tell them the truth and they feel validated, and loved, and that they have worth.
But even though the second one seems good, I don't like what it engenders. Everybody needs to be okay with themselves, and they can't rely on anyone but them to say that they're a good person.
I love my friends, and I tell them, but I can't convince them to love themselves.
clara:
That sounds like a really bad idea. I prefer to stick with a hug and an "I love you." Much, much safer.