Problems of a New Age...
What do you do when someone De-friends you on facebook? When you actually were trying to be friends ( in fact even more... for a while ) and then they just go dark? I thought I left everything as best as I could, in fact I was pretty pleased with myself and left her alone, to deal with any of my own feelings and move on.. which is what she requested... Really she asked me too..
But didn't say she was going to excise me from her life. And then this?
Will women always be emotionally unimpenetrable to me...?
Even more so now that technology has entered our lives so much more. Even as we let them into our hearts, the old fashioned way and try our best to care as they wish... Sure, I should just let it go who cares. Young girl..... who knows what they think. I couldn't figure them out when I was her age. Who says I can now.
Why care...move on. I know I did my very best.
But, this is what bugs me....
I thought I'd gone out of my way to make a friend, while being completely emotionally honest. After all that, done my best not to be some emotionally unavailable douch-bag after the fact.
That I and she meant something even if just for a few weeks, and I might be able to keep a friend in the long term.
I feel hurt....
What do you do when someone De-friends you on facebook? When you actually were trying to be friends ( in fact even more... for a while ) and then they just go dark? I thought I left everything as best as I could, in fact I was pretty pleased with myself and left her alone, to deal with any of my own feelings and move on.. which is what she requested... Really she asked me too..
But didn't say she was going to excise me from her life. And then this?
Will women always be emotionally unimpenetrable to me...?
Even more so now that technology has entered our lives so much more. Even as we let them into our hearts, the old fashioned way and try our best to care as they wish... Sure, I should just let it go who cares. Young girl..... who knows what they think. I couldn't figure them out when I was her age. Who says I can now.
Why care...move on. I know I did my very best.
But, this is what bugs me....
I thought I'd gone out of my way to make a friend, while being completely emotionally honest. After all that, done my best not to be some emotionally unavailable douch-bag after the fact.
That I and she meant something even if just for a few weeks, and I might be able to keep a friend in the long term.
I feel hurt....
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you mentioned you guys were 'together' for a month, honestly, this is just advice, but try to slow down the whole dating process. try to kiss a girl youre interested in on the 2 or 3 date instead of the 1, get to know a person first, before you hurry into having sex. i know its not easy esp. when you havent had sex in a while, but whats 2 or 3 more weeks of waiting, right?!
i think its very important to be respected and i dont think you can respect someone you kiss or fuck so early on in the dating process. i think if you guys wouldve waited with all the physical stuff for a while you wouldve taken more time to get to know her and maybe see that shes unable to have a relationship at the moment and therefore you wouldve saved yourself the heartache youre going through right now.
anyways, i really really hope you find a nice girl soon and try to think about my advice, it cant hurt, you know?!
i guess as dating advice id say, never ever kiss on the first couple days, get to know each other and when you feel that theres a connection move forward. girls dont like to do the first step.
you know what, i once wrote an article about how you can tell if a girl/woman wants to be kissed, if you want i could send it to you in a message, maybe it helps you understand 'us' a lil better.