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One of my newer clients is a small, demure Brazillian woman. Completely adorable. She married one of her first boyfriends, and just divorced after about 15 years. They had no sex the past 3 or 4 years. There are a couple of problems she's dealing with:

First, she feels completely un-sexy because of his lack of interest over a long period of time. She feels that there must be something wrong with her, and feels it's probably her breasts. Bleh.

Second, she feels like she missed out on most of her life. Both of them knew after the first few years that it wasn't going to work, but hung on anyway - for what reason even she's not sure.

Women: Just because your man isn't interested in sex, it DOES NOT mean your unsexy. It does not mean that you are an unsexual person, or that your breasts are deformed. It could very well be that he is an asshole, and that's the beginning and end of the problem.

Also, can someone please tell me why people stay in relationships that they are unhappy in? I'm not one to talk on this actually, but it makes the point no less valid. Things never really get better, and no one really changes. Things just get worse and worse. 15 years of this woman's life, what she feels are her prime years, wasted (well, from her perspective). It's hard not to be bitter, but she had chances to leave. He didn't make her stay, or tell her she was nobody without her or any of that shit.

People - know when to call it over.